At work the girls around me keep asking me why I'm so quiet and all I can really do is just shrug. What do I do? I can't really tell them "it's because I've been in the closet for the past 6 years and been living under a rock to hide away from everyone so I don't have much to talk about" Do I try to engage in conversations somehow or just be myself and be quiet as usual until I find people who have similar interest to conversate with? It's not like I don't want to talk it's just that I have nothing to talk about, no stories to tell or experiences to share.
Well how can you find people with similar interests unless you have a conversation with them lol And it may not be all about stories and experiences. A common band or author or even genre of books/music can open doors. Before you know it you're telling stories you didn't even know where "story-worthy" I've felt very similar and it just takes a foot in a door to be able to open it ^_^
Maybe its the other way around, maybe you never bother engaging in discourse with people you know you are never really going to get on with, and you only bother with your kind
then don't talk with her. who gives a fuck what she thinks. i don't ever talk with people i don't find interesting, much less engage in some idiotic small-talk in order to be nice.
just be yourself. if you really are normally quiet just say you really aren't a small talk kinda guy. my coworkers know I don't engage in small useless prattle.
I think thats something you should really consider, most people only really bother with those they are interested in, that are like them, or those they are interested in for love and or sex, which for the majority straight poulation would be half the people they come in contact with in teens and 20s But in your case that target is a very small minority, you feel you have out of ordinary social skills, and maybe thats so, but its that way cos you've only interacted with a handful of your own kind. That is its more about your environment than you. I myself was a little different when younger, it was mainly the hyper that kept me from certain social circles, but similar consequences. I see three main themes with gay guys in regards to this, socially out of sorts either from hyper, lack of contact with other gay guys or the extreme end of the feminine scale. Or put more simply, its not about you, but everyone else
*nods* yeah...my current environment of sitting in my cubicle staring at the computer screen all day isn't really helping either haha, i'm looking for another job though
hmm ive been wondering, this is my first time away from home and i currently live with 2 roomates. they're all in the living room and they have some friends over and are chatting it up, drinks out, i walk by to get some food and they ask me to sit and talk but i didn't because i felt i didnt really have anything in common with them from hearing them talk about diff subjects and they're all older than me, 28/30 etc. i just went back to my room, i wouldve felt so uncomfortable just sitting there. should i tell my roomates about my past at all sometime? so they understand why im so quiet or know about me more is that something 2 straight guys would care to hear about? or is that too personal?
