should i be offended or not??????

a few times when I get intimate with my boyfriend he makes this comment " that he is happy i cant kick him off" I dont know maybe its the heat of the moment but it makes me feel weird i dont know if i should be offended even today i am a bit embarrassed but never addressed it. Just confessing it makes me embarrassed should i be.

 

I don't even understand, he's happy you can't kick him off?

 

lol

 

Lol as in kick him off you or get him off.... ?

 

Yeah, if it were me I'd be asking what that means before I decide how I feel about it.

 

yeah im not sure but it dont sound right and it raises a eye brow. Its weird and it makes me embarrassed his choice of words

 

As in kick him off or get him off? No he gets off fine he says kick him off which is extemely stupid and im getting annoyed just thinking about it.

 

hmmmm

 

what are you talking about

 

like kick him off as in??? get him horny?? or what?? .. cause when people "kick off" i dont know, i thought it was associated with gettin mad???? .. i really dont know whats goin on here

 

im saying that i dont like his choice of words when pertaining to when we are intimate would i be over thinking it i dont know how to take his choice of words during intimacy its not stimulating it turns me off and it doesnt make me feel sexy those particular words it kind of kills it for me.

 

well if a guy said that to me, id be like well i dont care about you getting off, its all about the girl here

but tell him change you choice of words before you start kicking him
"out"

 

She doesn't have legs.

 

You don't feel comfortable discussing this with him during a non-intimate time? Cuz that's what you really need to do. I would start by asking him why he says it, what he means by it, is it a turn-on for him or something else - just get inside his head and find out what he's thinking and feeling when he says that. It's possible that when you understand it better, you might realize it's not offensive to you at all. But if you figure out where he's coming from and you decide it's no fun for you when he says that, you need to make your feelings known.

 

Can you read? She doesn't have legs. That's what he's talking about.

People need to be a little more clear about what they're talking about. Big Daddy Sam can't always come through and explain everything.

 

I think you explained well enough in your previous post, Big Daddy. The point is, she needs to understand what kicks he gets from saying that to her, and if she's still not good with it she needs to tell him so.

 

Indeedily doodily good sir. I had too much high powered coffee today...

 

Yeah, when I do that I find myself answering my own questions before I even ask them.

 

Okay well that doesn't even make sense, if I were you I'd just ask him what the hell he means by that.
I doubt its meant to be 'offensive' though.
Especially if he says it in intimacy so I suppose you shouldn't be offended.
Confused, turned off. Yes.
Offended no.

 

Just kick the fucker, see what happens.