i dont like being mad..

in a way i am glad though. because she was up my ass AAAALLLLL the time..
AAALLL the time.

 

FFFFUUUUUUUU.......that's some fukt up shit about summer school. lol

 

innit?
she didnt give a shit that she was essentially gonna waste his money even after all the drama she brought upon this house.
she's so fucking selfish.

I broke down and smoked with her, but only because i felt bad about the monkey. i let her take two hits off my joint. just enough for her to get a taste, but not high, lol

 

hahahaha Was it at least some good weed?

 

how can i get that $10/hr job?

 

yeah, but it was reg. man, if she had stolem my dro, i would have hit her the first time

by personally knowing the ganja queen.

 

Damnit I can't believe that sheiiit!

 

Treating her property like that, although it releases your anger in the moment, will only make matters worse.

Hilder, you're an adult, and you certainly treated jaz very well and she's lucky to have you since you got her from the strip club and gave her shelter. But you must lead by example, she is just going to continue to ruin your stuff if she sees you doing the same thing. An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind, babe. My dad use to beat the shit out of me and my brother and that taught me nothing other than to be quick on my feet. You say that you tried to talk to her like an adult, but honey, she's not an adult. She needs to be treated like a child/teenager, and disaplined, but not physically. Physically violence won't teach her anything, nor will it help you. Set rules and boundaries and stick to them. Stop smoking her up, she needs to realize there are consequences to her choices. She needs to release she has CHOICES. For example, she ruins something of yours, take something away. Like say, "You ruined my table, you didn't tell me about it. It's not acceptable. You can't use the bed for the rest of the week" and stick to it. If she steals from you, make her clean, make her do yardwork. If she refuses, take something else away, take the door off of her bedroom (if she has a bedroom?) and FORCE HER to make the decision FOR HERSELF that disrespecting you is NOT WORTH IT. Also, i wouldn't pay for her summer classes, that's just reinforcing the idea that money and belonging have little to no value, even if she doesn't have a job make her do SOMETHING to work for that priviledge of education.

Good luck honey, teenagers can be hard to deal with... AND I do love Jaz, but she needs some serious structure. Send her ass up to my house, I'll put her to work.

 

Fair fucks Hilder, she wouldnt still be in my house if she did that :cheers2:

Apart from all the shite how have you been keeping anyway?

 

I know it was bad to rip her shit up. but i was mad.
like brian said, it wasnt about the table, it was just what made me finally explode.
when i finally told my sisters husband about the caps, we decided she was losing her bedroom. since she couldnt be trusted to have privacy, it was taken away. she's been sleeping on the living room couch and isnt allowed to keep any personal belongings outside of her closet space, and since she stays u half the night on the phone, i make it a point to wake her up early. i dont like seeing a great big lump on my couch all day. if we let her, she would be up all night and asleep on the couch all day.
she used to get her own bottles of herbal essences shampoo, now she gets cheap Suave, no shaving cream. she has this obsession with always being shaven clean, and once i was going to my dicks house, and all my shaving creamn was gone. i went on a rampage. she didnt even bother to throw the bottle so i could know to get more. i used it once, and she denied using it. she left my razor under running water so all the moisturizing strips washed away. i threw her brand new razor away.
she just doesnt get it. i tried talking to her, i tried showing her, but she just doesnt give a shit.
she does dishes every night, she has to sweep every day, she has to take out the trash, clean our bathroom and burn trash every week.
there just isnt enough to do around here.
i dont talk to her, i basically give her commands.
no one has smoked with her since she stole my weed.
her uncle told her she isnt going to summer school, and he said that if she wasnt gonna go to school, then she either had to get a job or get the fuck out. she's making it seem like her graduating high school is a favor she is making us and the world.
whenever we go anywhere, she stays home. we dont spend a dime on her besides her food. we dont cook for her unless its dinner since we feed everyone.

she is a product of her mother. all of her children are good for nothing lazy fucks who think the world owes them everything just for existing and when they all came here, and realized they had to work for their dinner, they all left. hopefully she will too.
i decided to tell raz about what she did, because i was gonna be damned if i ;et her go over there and steal from her and embarass me when she came back with stories about her.
she hasnt been on here since she isnt allowed to touch my computer or phone.
when she goes back to school, i hope she sees this and is embarrassed.
you guys can treat her however you wish, but im not and will continue to pretend to like her. she's on my shit list.

its not my place to kick her out. she is not my kin.
he's told her to get out if she doesnt like whats going on, but has no money and no place to go.


ive been okay. same old shit, different day.

 

Fair enough..hopefully ye wont have any further problems...doesnt sound likely though

Stay safe anyway, we should have a chat soon :cheer2:

 

no wonder her mom kicked her out..

 

yeah, i have a feeling its gonna be one thing after anothier with this child.

we should. now that i have a computer i need to remember to get on aim

 

So, Updates anybody? Since the last post, Jasmine's uncle came up with some roaches missing.My sister took her into town to look for a job, and I searched her room. I found 6 roach paper wrappers, all empty, of course. I gave em to her uncle. he rant and raved, didnt get her to admit to anything. Didnt do anything but take the tv and phone away for a week. I have decided to have as little as possible to do with jasmine. i dont speak to her unless I have to, I dont acknowledge her presence, her comments, her conversations. I usually speak over her. its fun. I dont let my cheesy spend time with her either. Jasmine got a job at Jack in the box. finally. thank god she isnt here all fucking day. So today, i went to shower, and i go look for my razor. I find it moved from how I left it. Means she has been using it. I go pick up my shaving cream. sure enough, its light as hell, which means she has been using it. So what did I do? I took all my shit out, including the bathmat and showerhead, soaps, srubbies, everything. I have half a mind to take the shower curtain off. I also took a metal bowl to her razor. All the razor blades are fucked up, and I aint saying a word.

 

give me a warning first if I ever get on your bad side please

 

hey man, i fucking told her. IN WRITING! To lay off my shit. My thing is, she could at least be careful enough to put things back the way she found them. I also emptied out her shampoo and conditioner and bodywash. She has clothes in the dryer. if she doesnt take em out when theyre done or before mine are ready? theyre going on top of the dryer with all the lint she's collected and has been too lazy to throw away. Its come to where I dont chill in the livingroom when she's there. i already wasnt because of her uncle's episode, but this makes it even less.

 

yo it's your house too hilder (unless it isn't, but i assume a strong woman like you has quite a say in the way things are done) you should be busting her ass in more ways because she keeps using your things. she has a job, she can buy things that she wants to use.

 

she really needs to get kicked out...I think its disrespectful for her uncle to make you put up with this shit/stress

(I may have read wrong though)

 

I know, but since they seem to not give a shit, then neither do i. let her go to the bathroom where there is no toilet paper. see if I care. they can give her toilet paper. I was being nice by buying my own. but fuck her. she went to bed tonight, and didnt clean the kitchen after dinner. her ucle is gonna have a bitch fit. she didnt do anything today. i will probably be woken my screaming. lol oh well. see if i care. I gotta figure out what Im gonna do with all these toiletries.

 

it is best you hide your stuff, it sucks it's come down to that. but you gotta to what you gotta do