Hey, So this will be my first post on hipforums, I lurk about every now and then, lots of handy stuff ^^... However there has been something on my mind as of late and I thought perhaps this might be a good place to put my thoughts down, and maybe get some advice. Like any good sticky situation it starts with a love interest, A girl, a tad younger than I, that I happen to work with. My phone will wake me up with a text and my first thought is hoping it's her, most of the time it is, and I instantly find that smile across my face, the smile that comes when that someone says something cute or funny, or anything at all it seems <rolls eyes>. We have talked a lot, and I honestly feel as if she likes me, and that the signs are there, however I can't be sure, My people skills are rather good but understanding girls can sometimes be a grey area for me, and some of the problem there is I tend to understand boys a bit better >< So to move on, we were talking for a few weeks and I was feeling all excited I guess, in lack of a better term, and then it came up that she has a boyfriend, I had picked up on this already but was hoping it wasn't so, she seemed rather reluctant to tell me. Indeed it was so, and is still so, and of course I wouldn't go trying to steel someones lady, but we are getting closer now and hanging out more and it kinda hurts. So I guess my problem here is failing to understand the protocol in such a situation, I obviously don't want to feel like crap all that much longer, but I really would like to keep her as a friend. Anyone gone through a similar thing? any advice is welcome. Thanks for reading. Grosvenor ^_^
I think you have to let her know. Tell her you like her and you don't want to steal another persons girlfriend, and she will either have to break it off with him or break it off with you I mean it's not fair to go about it any other way. Just try and keep yourself from getting yourself to involved at the moment, if she wants to continue to tease your heartstrings and keep her relationship you really have to consider whether she really is worth the bother at all. If she is as great as you believe she will understand she needs to make a big decision and she needs to bring light to the situation, not you. SIMPLES!!
Yeah shes gonna have to pick one or the other. Cuz its selfish to do somethin behind his back and string u along. Be up front with her. U never know...
Steal his damn lady. You don't know the guy so it doesn't really matter. You're better than him anyhow. Just go up to her and tell her you like her. Relationships at her age aren't serious anyhow. She might be waiting for you to swoop her out of a boring loveless relationship. All in all, don't worry about hurting the feelings of some dude you don't know. It's your life. Go command and fucking conquer. If you want this girl, then go and get her.
She has a boyfriend. From the OP, it sounds like one of the first things she does in a day is to text someone who isn't her boyfriend. Based on what you have seen, if you become her boyfriend, how much will you be able to trust her?
Thanks for your helpful yet mixed opinions. I do believe stealing, and I should insert tryingto steal her from a perhaps happy relationship would be a bad idea, it would be awesome to think I could sway her away from her asshole of a man, unfortunately I don't have information to support that he is. She doesn't say much at all about him, which is a possible signal right? he lives about an hour away from her, I live around the corner, and probably see her more, it's a tad hard to grasp. However I don't think shes the kinda girl to put up with an idiot, nor the kind to mess around on someone she loved, perhaps I am reading the signals incorrectly and i'm in the 'Friend zone' as they call it? I think I shall google and find some sort of "get over it, QUICK!" remedy, lotion or potion >< I am certainly over thinking about it.
She is probably wonderful, but maybe that is a good idea. I think MikeE made a wonderful point how much could you trust a girl like that? Either way, if you get the chance and she is willing to be in a relationship with you instead- it's only your decision to make. I mean, you know her and no one here does all I can do is wish you luck with it all though mate, know how it feels to like someone who you aren't allowed to approach. I had a thing with a friends girlfriend once, and I just accepted it and walked away, which looking back on it I feel was the right decision.
Evolution's all about survival of the fittest man. Go ahead and steal her. Just be prepared for the fact that the current bf might get angry about it.
