I don't think I would ever cheat on my wife, but I really miss having sex with men. There's just something about having a cock. How do you all cope with this?
There's a lot of stuff I miss about being single. I mean, if I made a list it would be a dilly. However, I refrain cause it would not be worth the hassle and risk involved. Sex with men? I really don't want to lose my family. That doesn't mean I can't check it out online sometimes. I'm like you in that there's just something about a cock that is so flagrantly sexual. Don't give in - it would cost more than you want to pay.
Cheating on your wife is a quaint concept. Unless your wife can grow a cock and balls that you desire then doing a guy is not "cheating." But, if you never told your wife that you used to have sex with men, then I guess that little omission of the whole truth was cheating. My wife knew going in that I was into men. She hooked up with me, knowing that I would be satisfying that desire elsewhere. Only rule - don't bring diseases home.
Here's a shocker - Shale & I disagree - seriously. If i have gone to the trouble to commit in marriage or relationship, vows and all - then if I stick my pecker in another mammal - it is cheating - men, women, both - don't matter - you have welshed on a promise you made. Outside a committed relationship you can screw anyone you damn well please - two or four legged. If you have committed to a relationship, have the balls to step up to the plate and keep your wanger out of everyone else's body openings except your partners. Don't bring disease home - that's nothing but a crap shoot - good luck with that.
I did not make the same promise that you made. Brenda and I made our own vows, which were: I wish to live with you as my lawful mate, Just as I have lived these years as your friend, supporting your hopes, reflecting your thots and sharing your love. And, going in Brenda knew of my love for men and knew that I would have my occasional "night out with the boys," as many marriages have. Except she knew mine were more than a few beers and a slap on the back. (well, maybe a slap on the backside)
That's a different thing cuz she already knew what she was getting into. A completely different thing is when a woman is expecting her mate to be faithful and truthful to her while he's actually shagging around in her back (be it with men or women). That IS cheating and cannot be condoned.
Sorry Shale - I was not speaking of you since I do not know what the vows you made were. I was referring to the guy who started the thread and who had apparently made vows in the fidelity vein. My observation is that most couples do make such vows when they commit. In that case it really is not quaint to break those vows, but a betrayal. And no, I have never been sexually unfaithful to my wife. On some other matters yes - ie: drugs about which I will lie like a rug. Believe me - as I have read your thoughts and corresponded with you I have developed a high regard for you and your principles. I have found very little in your sharing that I disagree with. On this though, our views differ.:sad:
Some of the guys who I've been with missed the special connection between two males. I've had my far share of married men. Their not like other young men who do anything to get me. Their experienced and I'm comfortable with them. You need a "toy-boy" fast.
My wife is well aware that I've been with other men in the past, but she considers having sex with anyone else but her cheating. When I decided to marry her, I also decided to give having sex with men up. At times I struggle with the decision I made, but I do love her and I will honor it. I can't help but to hope that one day her mind will change regarding this though. Fortunately she doesn't mind my dalliances into gay porn
