Not sure what to do, shes leaving for months, I can't wait.

Hey guys I know your all wise and awesome here so I figure i'll let you know about something that's getting me down lately. I'm 16 years old, i'm no player, I tend to look for love above anything in girls. It's what I truly want.So there's this girl I came to the conclusion of that I really like. She the first in about 3-4 years to get into my heart like this. Her name's Sophia. She's a new student from Texas that came to my school in NJ this year. I've met her many times now and have spent some time hanging out with friends and talking to her while shes around. We're very similar, shes introverted like me, yet strong like me. She's a karateka, and a black belt in kyokushin karate. I'm a black belt in goju ryu and almost one in shotokan karate. We talk about martial arts a lot, it's my biggest passion in life. So anyway, recently she got incredibly sick. Chronically sick. And she hasn't been around much and I haven't seen her in forever. The last time I saw her in person was about 5 weeks ago when we used to study together. I sort of left her alone knowing she was sick until she added me on facebook. I then realized "why the hell haven't I thought of dating her?". So we messaged on fb, she gave me her new cell number and I gave her mine and over the past week or 2 we've been messaging and talking to each other over the phone and on the internet. She has been telling me some very deep thoughts and I've been helping her get through some of the stress of being sick. I too was once very ill and it took me over 3 years to get better. We've tried setting up dates but so far nothing has worked out because of a busy schedule, partially from her being sick, she can't go out much. So she told me she thinks it's amazing how much we have in common and how we can talk to freely about anything without having known each other that long.

So bottom line, she just found out a day ago that she's going to have to travel to the children's hospital in PA for treatment and she may be there for 2-10 weeks. I didn't really know about this and it feels as if we're right on the verge to start something. I want to tell her how I feel, I was planning on telling her in person then asking her out but that is now impossible. 10 weeks is a long time and if shes gone that long I don't know what will happen if I don't let her know soon. My idea is to just tell her tonight before she leaves tomorrow morning, but I don't know how to word it at all. I don't know how she'd take it having not seen me in a while, but it's clear we have trust. How do I come about this?

 

Just keep it simple and to the point.

 

I'd save it but if you really can't hold it in then tell her. If it's meant to be, 10 weeks ain't shit... and it could be as little as 2, do you realize how quickly 2 weeks pass? It's not like you've invested all kinds of time and emotion into her already and you're losing something that's going to shake up your whole life. Obviously you like her, but try to keep things in perspective. People who have been married for years get separated by jobs, the military, etc...

Keep her on the back burner. Keep yourself occupied while she's away, maybe visit her in the hospital if possible... I don't know where you're from, but CHOP is no more than 2 hours away from any point in NJ, it's not like she's light years away. When she gets out, pick up where you left off. Sometimes a wrench gets throw in the gears and you have to wait things out. Patience is one of life's most valuable lessons. I know it's hard, but stay strong. Good luck.

 

okay update I told her how I feel now we're kicking it off soon as she gets back WOOHOOOOT!

 

** fireworks **

 

Glad it worked out. *high five*

 

This also gives me a hell of a training partner. She also likes judo. (grappling)

 

Awesome, man. Good to hear.

 

Ahh... martial arts and love - awesome combination. I met my wife in the dojo.

 

thnx everyone things have been better. only now i'm sort of having nightmares about her in the hospital and I keep thinking about her. strange.. i'm still trying to meditate on it.