Coming out- the bi-sexual version..starring..me

I was doing a report for school today on equal rights, how gays deserve the right to marriage in the U.S.A. I started by talking about harvey milk, then the DOMA and FDMA denial of aid to gay partners. Statistics, how homosexuality is a perfectly normal variation of how humans develop. I read my report to my parents, my dad was bbqing chicken, my mom drinking a lemonade, 30 some degrees celsius out, very humid, they said it was persuassive, I made some valid points. My mom said she would prefer both her children to be hetero-sexual so that she can have biological grandchildren and so I wouldn't have to face the pressures of society. They didn't want to talk about the subject further, they felt I was debating them. I was in the kitchen a minute later, I asked her why she felt the need for biological grand children, if one of us decided to adopt they would take our last name and continue the family name. She said she knows but would prefer it, that if I was to marry a man and he couldnt have children or I couldnt the shed accept the adopted baby and love it. I said what if I was to marry a woman, an adopt a baby, would it be accepted then?

She said I guess, why are you gay?
And I paused, and smiled because I do that when i'm nervous.
She said I aske you a question!
I said uhh no, but!...
and she walks on to the deck
she sais thats enough of that.
my dad said to drop it
and I said well you asked me a question do you want the answer
(I figured it would never be the perfect time)
she said well you already answered it so thats that
I said there are mediums, its not just gay or straight
and they said thats enough
so I said thanks...
and went to grab my laptop
and I said I mine as well come out an say it, i'm a bisexual
and if thats means im disgusting or diseased or whatever, thats your opinion I guess.
And I walked away.
came back upstairs a bit later. and said I love you, to my mom who was sitting at her laptop.
She said I love you to
but kind of in a way like.. ???
Like shes ignoring what I said to her.

Ive been wanting to tell them for awhile, but I think they probably dont take it seriously....or they do and they're pretending I didn't say it.

 

They'll come around. :]
Youre being truthful to yourself.
Kudos. :]]

 

Hey thanks man,I really appreciate that. I didn't know what to expect for responses I just assumed i'd get flamed. But I appreciate the support.

 

Tell them there could be worse things, you could have been ginger for example

 

And for the record, you're young, they think you are an attention seeker

that's just the way parents are. I know this because I have been there, more or less.

 

your straight....this is only a phase....

 

I knew you were gay......toe rings......I knew it!

 

turn her mate, pull the moves

 

With my parents not listening to me, I mean. Not the gay conversation, you fuck

 

I can get her pass that phase....

she did say she wanted me to give her kids....

 

lol

 

Well, that comment appears to have scared her off

smooth, bro

 

To be honest, I find it rather odd to see so many people saying "this is a phase, you are straight". And others assuming that there is gay and straight and the in between is just "seeking attention".

In my (very) short stint at college, I attended a Psyche 101 class... I know I know, that's good for nothing, and all it does is turn out a bunch of wannabe freuds! But all bs aside, I had a wonderful professor, who taught from HIS OWN BOOK, and you could of course choose to agree or disagree, as is the nature in such a liberal class.

But he had wonderful theories on sexuality, and one of those that I tend to agree with (as a STRAIGHT MALE) is his theory on bisexuality.

He theorizes that all men and women fall on a spectrum. Gay all the way on the left, straight all the way on the right. The reality is we are all SOMEWHERE IN BETWEEN. Whether we are a nosehair away from either side, is one thing, but noone is 100%. The human psyche is not so black and white as to have just gay and straight. So really, we are all bisexual to a degree.

Just thought I'd share that.

 

Lucky me, I was lucky enough to be born bisexual. Which means I get judged by both sides of the spectrum. Some gays get to say, make up your mind already, straight people get to assume im some sort of over horny attention seeking female. Why can't it be easy. Some people are gay, some people are straight and some people find both males and females attractive.

 

Its just naivity sweety, how do you know you one or both or your parents arent bi? Think about that the next time they get pissy on the subject.

Most of them end up bi, not just because of attraction but also through boredom or frustration.

If either of them are you are the last person theyd tell

 

Well, I know thats crap too. Some little princess no doubt floating in a sea of surburbia somewhere, the number of gay people youve actually gotten close to, you could count on one hand, half of which werent actually gay, half of the other half gay enough to know the choice aint up to you.

Due to the gradient thing explained by someone else in an earlier post some gay guys arent going to want to go anywhere near a daddys little princess, some gay girls arent going to bother until you have biceps wider than your head.

So because you are girly girl bi girl, you are never going to see some sections of the "gay community", learn off them, compare to others and thus never see the whole spectrum, but like your mother will end up working it out through other means then get bitter and pissy about it cos no one ever told you the truth

 

This is kind of a random lash out on me. I wasn't saying all gay people view bisexuals as people who can't make up their mind. I'm not my daddys...little princess........but this is exactly the kind of crap I expected

 

how did it feel? it sounds like a very empowering experience.

 

And now we are past that, lets examine further. On the whole subject of sexuality no one ever says out loud how they really feel, you have to read between the lines.

What is your mother getting pissy about on this subject?, I can pretty much guarantee it has nothing to do with you, but what she suspects of your dad. The "I want you to stay straight marry and have kids" is just the cover story, the real anger is a little more personal.

Why do my kind get annoyed by the daddys little princesses?, becuase that is what is "gay" to us, cant explain why that is, you wont start to get it till your kids hit kindergarten, and thats just you, your hubby will still have no clue.

And then there is you, out and proud, stand your ground ...yada yada....when pretty much every other guy thinks all girls are bi anyway or that at least its not a big deal for them. So from their perspective you are trying to reaffirm to them that you are like most other gals. And most of the other gals just think it means you are extra horny.

All this stuff is just a symptom of the battle of the sexes, males are never really going to understand females and vice versa. So when you make claims, use a label its just going to get interpreted by different people in different ways.

And not only are you never really going to be able to understand males, you are not going to be able to understand other females that are on different places in that gay/straight spectrum.

And lastly, in one sense, you are never going to understand yourself, you say you arent daddys little princess? Well, everyone else thinks you are, especially daddy