Tired and not sure what to make of this

Hello, I need some advice on something here. My boyfriend has seemed really distracted the last few months. He is under a great deal of stress right now but I was away for a month and he hardly wrote me at all. Now I'm back and he does have a lot on his plate but he doesn't really seem too bothered to see me. We were supposed to go to a bbq tomorrow but he cancelled because he said he has to sort a ton of stuff out,he said he'll try to see me in the week. I'm just a bit disheartened because it could be stress but it feels awfull. When I said I missed him in letters he never responded in the same way and the sex has been pretty much non-existant one or two months before I left. I tried talking to him about it before I left and he kept saying it's all down to loads of stuff on his mind,etc. I've never been in a serious relationship before and I was wondering,does this sound like normal behaviour of a stressed out person or could it be something more?

 

It sounds like it could be something more to me.

It sounds like it could be a major sign that you aren't ready for a serious relationship, when you are more concerned about not being loved the right way than your partner's mental anguish.

 

You said yourself that you are tired and that is not usually the best time to have clear thoughts.

It could be more but it could also be just exactly what has been said.

You and he are going to have to have a long talk about the situation as second guessing does not usually work well.

I would wait until you think that his obligations are reasonable and you can both make time and be emotionally ready to talk, then approach it. If what ever is causing him stress is not going to change in the near future, you may have to have the conversation regardless.

 

I suppose this thread was a reflection of my insecurity in our relationship and through your messages I see the problem is a lack of communication on my part, not something to be resolved on a message board with strangers, thank you.

 

My words were not said lightly, and you took the criticism like a champ =D

Communication is never a bad idea in a serious relationship, sounds to be a wise decision to me. And insecurities fade with time and as you build a trusting bond, so don't let them stress you too much.

 

Could be something big... could be something small... Either way it seems like it may be time to start a new chapter in your life.

 

go find someone who will appreciate you and every hair on your head. Every person on God's green earth deserves the feeling of being adored by another.

He sounds like he is an idiot, and obviously doesn't know what he is got until it's gone.

 

Hi, I've just been in the same place with mine and we DO communicate so I finally got him to admit there was someone else which explained why I was getting the cold shoulder and him coming home late all the time.

Now I've told him he has to choose, continue living here and devote himself to what we've begun together or go to her and face an uncertain future.

I suggest you talk it out with yours too before you make a final deciscion

Lois

 

This!

Oh, and yeah, it sounds like something more to me.

 

Sounds like he just isn't to it anymore..