A Question for the Husbands. Open relationships with your wife?

Figured this would be one of the best places to come online to since I am looking for some input from mature people hehe! Really looking some advice from all the Husbands here but I really don't mind (even appreciate it) any input from the ladies!

Me and my future Wife (we have been together for the last 4 years I basically see her as my wife already) have always trusted and loved each other a lot and we've always had a more "open" outlook then other couples when talking about sex. We are also both bi and are both very flirty

Here is my problem though: She has never had a problem with me being with another woman either when she is present or even if she is not there as long as she knows all the details about it. Have had numerous fun events with and without her! The problem is that when she talks about being with another Man I get very jealous for some reason I know she loves me and wouldnt hurt me but for some reason the thought of her getting down and dirty with another man drives me nuts.. in a bad way.

I actually want her to be with another man that is the main problem! Not for my own pleasure or anything like that but because I want her to be able to feel the excitement again of kissing somebody new! Don't misunderstand me please.. we have some amazing sex and I wouldn't trade it for anything in the world but we also all know that "new person" sex is exciting and fun!

I wish i could figure out why it's driving me so crazy because I am feeling like it is simply not fair I trust and love her but for some reason the idea kills me and I don't know why!

 

Is there a difference if you are in the room?

It doesn't matter what you "should" be comfortable with. If some situations make you (person) uncomfortable, you (couple) shouldn't get in those situations.

 

It could just be the nature of our species. While we are not particularly supposed to be monogamous as so many cultures want to push us, the males of our species by nature are territorial.

This will take a lot of logical higher brain function to turn off that old chest pounding posturing and attack mode to which males are often prone.