It sucks when a friend you thought you could trust betrays you

Truth. When I was living in the homeless shelter, I was always doing favors for people and being very generous. People were always warning me not to be so kind to people, but my response was always "I show kindness and generosity because I want to and, as a result of my generosity, I'll be able to find out how appreciative these people are and how/if they'll repay me when I am in need of some kindness and generosity. If they don't return the favor or show proper appreciation, then I know what kind of people they are and I have learned that I can't trust them. They get ONE chance. What happens after that is up to them." That's not verbatim, mind you, but it was something to that effect. lol

Just chock it up as a life-lesson and move on. Don't dwell on it and don't allow it to affect the kind of person you are. It's worth taking a loss to find out if you can trust someone or not, because even though most of the people you come in contact with are selfish assholes, you'll still be fortunate enough to find genuinely good people, every once in a while. It's worth the risk, imo.

 

Sally is a lezi, perhaps?

 

I see that you are very upset

 

I wonder what the objective of his response was too.

But does that mean you agree with him than?

I mean, I am just venting about the actions of someone else. So if anything is acting like a teenager, it is the actions of the girl I speak of. How can I be acting like a 15 year old just for venting? I basically didn't have much of a role in this story. She is the "15 year old" if you want to label anyone like that, I just wanted to write about it to get it off my chest.

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I highly doubt it, and would almost go as far as to say 100% doubt it. She is a traditional Chinese girl.

How am I being a pussy? She talked behind my back, saying bad things about me in a different language to my gf. I don't get your reasoning and how that makes me one. I sent this (ex) "friend" one last email exposing her, was firm and to the point. End of story. She is blocked from communication in every way, so the drama ends. I just wanted to tell the story to let off some steam.

100% of the drama was caused by my stupid friend and I dropped her like a sack of shit as soon as the truth came out. I thought I had escaped this type of shit ages ago. But how is my gf a bitch? How did you come to that conclusion from my story? I don't get it. At first she felt a little bad at the prospect of bad mouthing my "friend" but did tell me everything.

To get less drama? I disagree. I have no feelings for American girls in general, just my personal preference and based on personal experience. You know the saying some girls have in America "Once you go black you never go back." No offense, but once I went non American, I was pretty sure I never wanted to go back. Been with German, French and now Chinese, third girl that is not American. My Chinese gf causes the least amount of drama out of any of the four countries I have had experience with in regards to dating. She is very chill and drama free. This one problem with my shitty friend is the first experience with drama I have had since dating my gf, and I don't blame my gf for causing that drama. But I assure you, I had lots more drama with all my previous American gfs.

 

No I do not agree with what was written. If I were you I'd concern myself with things other than replies whose central purpose seem to be belittlement.

You said you had a feeling about the girl but didn't act on it so you realize that the mistake was yours for trusting in the first place. I'd forgive her on the grounds that her act resulted in you being a wiser person.. then move on. No need to forgive her directly though... keep that internal lest a new dialog gets re-established to furnish opportunity for new betrayal since she has shown that she is willing to use your trust against you.

 

I have trouble understanding these human things.

 

best to stick with pets.

 

nicely said !

 

carl lol first it wasnt meant to be serious

second- your thoughts about american chicks are very dense. to label all american girls into one as "all dramatic'' is pretty petty.

you got a bad apple from your "long term friend" maybe shes jealous or likes you.

My Chinese gf causes the least amount of drama out of any of the four countries I have had experience with in regards to dating. She is very chill and drama free.

its been a virginal 3 months. give it a year

and lastly i know a lot of females that are... surprise surprise chill and non dramatic

 

Yah, of course there are chill American girls, they were just hard to find and trust me I did look. I just kind of got tired of looking. Nothing against you personally, you might be one of those cool ones.

Actually, American girls make really cool friends, I have a lot. But as for dating, in general, the ones I have met lack qualities I desire and have others I don't care for. Funny thing is, I was ready to swear off Chinese women just before I met my current one, so not denying there are some awesome possibilities in America, turns out there was one in China.

 

You can't help who you fall in love with, and you may find him/her in the most unlikely of places. Geographical location/origin is irrelevant, when it comes to finding the love of your life.

 

Wise Advice, Gets A Pos Rep From GLEN....



Cheers Glen.

 

sorry but you are an idiot for first swearing off american girls, and now chinese girls.

 

You are an idiot for giving such a vast generalization about a personal choice.

Also for not reading the fact that he is still dating a Chinese girl.

 

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An idiot? I've read fairly carefully and have not seen where Carl has sworn off Chinese girls. He's said he almost gave up on them... would that qualify him as almost an idiot in your eyes? In any case, having a specific preference doesn't strike me as grounds for inclusion into the brotherhood of idiocy and I'm wondering if perhaps you are yearning for more company...?

Normally this would be a personal attack but in the context of this discussion- particularly the nature of your (vigilante's) contribution I'm finding it very hard to differ.

 

Seems like you lack reading comprehension skills. You know, since I am dating a Chinese girl. Hopefully you can become more tolerant of peoples personal preferences as well. I am basing those personal preferences on personal experience. With more experience, those preferences are subject to change. I even said as much:

But so far, from my experience (which is pretty vast) I just prefer other women. Deal with it man. No need to throw around childish insults. I don't insult other people for their personal preferences. People are free to prefer what they want and have their own reasons. I know I do!!

 

what does it say in the panda pic?