Men: If you earn less than your woman

I am sure you do

but you better hurry up, you are getting old..tick tock tick tock

Seems to me, if I was rich as you, I surely wouldn't be looking for someone who is less rich than myself..but I am sure those woman are waaaay out of your league..better change your game or your gonna die a lonely man..

Overall, it is money, you spend it, you invest it..it is not the end all, be all..it is a means of survival..who cares who makes more? If you judge your self worth on how much cash you have, that is sad..

 

Gotta respect the honesty here. Posting inflammatory threads isn't necessarily a bad thing as it challenges those holding opposing views to respond with civility. One thing it doesn't do is run for cover from the potential controversy of being politically incorrect. I've grown to see political correctness as being one of the biggest threats to free speech.

 

I am not really worried. After my divorce I needed time to get to know who I am. My self worth is fine. But thanks for the concern.

There are plenty of people in relationships that feel lonely.

Your old argument is lame. Anyone could die at any second.

Again making assumptions about me that you have no way of knowing.

This was about a personal opinion. No where was I talking about my self worth about how much I have.

No where was I talking in this thread about being lonely.

And again you cannot seem to keep on topic. Please try harder to maintain the topic.

 

I appreciate that I can post things that might go against the norm here.

I do want to state that I really do hold women in high regard.

My values might seem old fashion to some. But I do respect women and I treat them very well.

 

You are pre approved! Be sure to let me know what type of coffee you prefer, so that I stock up!

 

I am not really sure why so many people in general seem to have such an issue with peoples personal choices when it comes to relationships. I see no issue with what you want in a relationship for yourself and if that is the standard that you have then it is a matter of finding someone of like mind and goals to build a relationship with.

I don't read it as a control issue instead I read it as someone who has matured enough to know what they want and need. If a person who you have a relationship with wants and needs the same then it works.

I think that we try so very hard to remain so liberal in our views and conform to what is popular at times as in what is politically correct that we over do the thinking.

I hope you find who you are looking for. I do think that is possible.

The irony for me here is that all relationships are a contract.

 

This statement, makes me think very highly of you.

Anyone who uses their incomes as a comparison in a relationship is in my opinion not going to manage to survive. If incomes are not just a part of the joint pot and the goals of both are not met from there then it is going to eventually become an issue.

I have been on both sides. My ex earned more than I did and my current partner earns less. Income is not the issue, what we as a couple want to do with it, is.

In either case, if income earning is central to power in the relationship rather than equal in decision making, it would not work.

 

Thanks.

This thread was basically a slant on my views, with the intention of being slightly controversial.

The truth is I really should have said for me if I am in a relationship I am totally committed to my goals and I want a person who can totally emotionally support me and those goals.

But that would not be very inflammatory, would it?

I also could have said that short of an heiress, famous actress or singer it is not likely that a girl that I am in a relationship with will earn anything close to me.

The fact is it makes no difference to me what other people do. If I man makes less than the woman it has no effect what so ever on my life.

Also I know that I will never find my dream girl hiding away in my jungle compound.

There is no way anyone can get close to my property without getting turned away by security.

So she is not going to walk up to my house one day and introduce herself.

When I am ready for a relationship I will go to an airport and fly away somewhere to find her.

Yes all relationships are non binding, non enforceable contracts.

No matter what the contract (marriage or relationship) anyone can vote with their feet and walk away.

 

Hello,

fantastic,I will take the next bus to Canada . I'm fine with every type of coffee, as long as it doesn't taste like cleansing fluid. Last friday the cleaning lady in my office filled the coffee machine with cleansing fluid and forgot about it. After a big sip of this 'special blend' of coffee I felt the urge to throw up for the rest of the day.

Regards
Gyro

 

Some are closer than others

You have already admitted a few times in this thread that your topic is not genuine..that you are just trying to cause controversy..so, I will post what I want..but I appreciate you trying to keep me on track..your a lot just like my mother..

 

The very thought of the coffee pot brings a whole new meaning to perks at work. You were literally descaled.

No wonder you felt that way, that crap is toxic, not the coffee!!

Shall stock up and wait for your bus to arrive.

 

That will not change the fact that my girlfriend will likely be younger than you. Provided you are above 25 years old.

Based on your replies I doubt you are more than 13 years old.

You are a virgin, aren't you? LMAO! You are killing me kid. I have not laughed so hard in a long time..

No the topic is real. I do feel men should support their woman. That does not mean I did not post to cause controversy.

For the 3rd time please stay on topic. Does your mommy know you are using the Internet?

 

That it is even posted would cause some to think that it is inflammatory as they would see it that it means someone else gives up something. Rather than seeing that they gain something. I did not and do not read it that way.

In life and through personal experiences, the people and couples I know who are happy together are so as they have mutual goals. They differ from person to person and sometimes even within the couples but the one thing they all seem to have is a togetherness or oneness on the ideals that they are working to-wards. It is a common goal that binds them and the support that is there to achieve it.

Money is a means to an end. If the end game plan is not jointly shared then the money is useless.

I have a feeling that you are already in a space that know exactly what you want and what it is going to take to get there. That is something that I personally respect and feel is about the best place to start from.

You did not become successful by not knowing how to approach and solve issues nor how to overcome obstacles. I have a feeling that if this is a goal you have you are going to do it as the model for doing it is not any different. Now is probably the time for it to just be applied to a personal life rather than a professional life. I have no doubt that if this is what you want, it is going to happen.

 

Nah, I don't want a feeling of ownership if I'm in a relationship with someone, so making all the bacon would def give me that feeling/impression - I'd rather have a partner who is capable of weathering life alone as she is with a romantic roommate.

 

Indeed... but the inevitability of the exit unites us all... as is the FACT that amassing any level of fortune does nothing to change that- whether or not the main bread winner is male or female.

I'll pretend that you held some credibility in this discussion so that I can say that you lost it here... I've checked all of UA's posts in this discussion including the thread starter and at no point was it even suggested that this is anything but a genuine discussion. He did acknowledge that he likes to post potentially inflammatory discussions but as long as it is done without attacking anyone here then it's a good way of getting extra response... and does not make the topic less genuine.

He clearly expected some differences of opinion and the challenge here is to express those differences without resorting to attacks and name calling... or blurring the discussion topic; which you have attempted on each of your three responses here. It's not about getting some ass because of income, neither is it about sounding like your mom and it certainly isn't about whether or not certain women are in someones league... it's about what is suggested of the manhood of an individual who pulls home less than his wife/fiancee/girlfriend. I have civilly expressed my difference with UA's assertion but respect that he thinks as he does.

You have used non-topical means to attempt assailing UA's manhood which suggests to me that you are not able to debate the topic. Perhaps this is because of an absence of life experience. Time will mitigate this. It could also be a result of challenges you may have in processing information that is in front of you... and the manner in which you have responded here I wouldn't be quick to dismiss the latter.

 

BINGO!

Then I'm the woman-hater..."afraid of love", and all the crap that people have said about me precisely because I want independence and equality in relationship.

I definitely wouldn't mind dumping the Christian ideal of "love", for the pagan Greek practice of friendship.

 

If your woman earns more than you then you have struck gold in more than doubling your income.

 

I would think a man would be proud of his significant other for making such good money.

A genuine question for the op, or anyone else. Who should make more money in a relationship between two females? Between two males? The least feminine of the two?

 

I honestly do not know.

That is a very good question.

What I do know is I consider it my duty to provide for the woman anything she needs or wants.

 

What do you expect a woman to provide in return?