telling my gf she isn't giving good head

how do you think i should break the news? she used to be really good at it, but now its not that great. i don't know how i should tell her, i think she has a clue because she doesn't make me cum just by giving head, we always have sex- sometimes i want to just sit back and relax with a good blowjob...
i go down on her often and she says i'm very good at it. i always make her cum and i just want the favor returned once and a while.

 

Was her head now different then when she did make you cum? like has her technique changed?

 

If you have something important like that to tell her, pluck up and be a man

tell her in text. That's where you tell your partner something like your blowjob qualms, that you're breaking up with them, you have an STD or perhaps having a child with another person. OR perhaps all of it, text rates are a lot cheaper these days

 

express your feelings and needs gently
try to see from the perspective of her not knowing how to please you, instead of that she doesn't give you good head. she just needs to know how and what pleases you

 

yeah i would say that it changed, i guess i'll bring that up and go along w what DazedGypsy said...

@ Imaginary - lol i don't know how she would respond to a text

thanks

 

I got it.

Take her out for a nice day at the beach on a clear day and arrange for an airplane to fly by trailing a banner that says something to the effect of "Better Head or GTFO"

Really though... just ask her if she's feeling lazy lately or something. I always encourage questions/comments regarding my BJs and I wouldn't want my BF to hold back if there was something I could do to improve. From a female perspective, I say just tell her straight up. Don't be a dick about it, but be honest.

 

I didn't know there was a bad blow job!

As long as it doesn't involve biting...

 

some girls seem to get rattled and lose focus if they slurp.

 

edit: OP you're welcome sorry didn't catch your post

 

You have to come out & tell her. Don't beat around the bush about it, tell her you want the effort she used to put into it before. I think she may not be giving good head because she may just be lazy about it, so she's not putting in the effort & energy that she used to.

 

nah, some girls are just terrible at it.

 

Instead of just telling her she is giving shit head which may result in you not getting any at all, a better idea would be to give her some guidance in what you do like.

Let her know if something feels nice, ask her to do something different if you are not liking what she is up to, if there are things she has not done that you think you might like, just straight out tell her.

Ideally, you guys should be communicating more. There is nothing wrong with asking your partner for direction, feedback, etc, ..every body is different and likes slightly different things and unless your psychic your not going to know the little things unless you communicate about it. Sounds like you two are guessing what each other likes and in her case at least, she is obviously not getting it right.

No need to go insulting her and jeopardizing your relationship with a negative critique tho, ...just start telling her what you do like instead. Also get in the habit of asking her for feedback, .. if she likes something in particular, if she prefers one thing over another, etc, .. and you may find that she will then get comfortable with asking you for feedback too which should result in you gettin a bj more tailored to your prefrences without anyone getting offended in the process.

Have a look at all else in the relationship too. If something is not quite right there this will usually reflect for a woman when it comes to sex. Her enthusiasm may be lacking because she thinks something else is.

 

I think its all in your head.. (imagination wise) ..

 

some good ideas in here, thanks to all - i'll let you know how it works out!

 

Play naive and ask her why she doesn't do it like she used to like you think she's purposely doing it different. Then it's just like it's a simple misunderstanding about which way you prefer her to do it and it's not as hard as having to have the "you're lazy in bed now" conversation.

Women have a tendency to get lazy in the bedroom as the relationship goes on and it's very dangerous having the conversation that boils down to "hey I want you to be good in bed so I'm always satisfied here and don't go looking for it elsewhere" because that always comes off as a threat of cheating.

Both sexes have bad habits that manifest when you've been in a relationship for an extended period of time, bad sex just happens to be one the females do more than the males.

Example male one would be putting a woman on a pedestal and turning the heat off in the bedroom once she becomes the mother of your child.

 

Tell her via instruction. Get a hot friend to give you a good BJ and let her watch.

I wish I wasn't so helpful

 

Just be honest. I can't imagine she enjoys it more then traditional intercourse anyway.