So I got this girl's number... now what do I say to her?

I'm just wondering what I should talk about on the phone with her for the first time. Should I try to get a good conversation going before I ask her out, or should I just ask how she's doing and all that before asking her out? Or something else entirely?

 

If you have to ask us let me spoil the ending for you.

You won't get laid.

 

When you call her you can start talking, but what you really just want to set up a date and time. Why talk to her on the phone when you can talk to her in front of you?

 

stop over thinking it and call her already, then just wing it.

 

Women are strangely connective and expressionful. Phone sucks compared to real life. So talk to her be yourself. Have fun.

 

if you have to ask you're not ready

 

Shh, be positive!
But yeah.

 

I agree with whats already been said.

But keep yer chin up. If you are surprisingly successful this time, great!

If not, just learn from your mistakes and remember what to do and what not to do when the next girl comes around.

 

The more you think about what to talk about the more boring the conversation is, & the less of a chance you have to get with this girl. Be natural & talk about whatever comes to mind at the moment. Develop some conversation skills by being natural & talking more on the phone.

 

This is a terrible statement. How absurd. He may just be inexperienced and not know how to handle himself.


To the OP: What you should do is call her up and ask if she'd like to hang out. You already know that she's at least interested in talking to you/ hanging out because if she wasn't she wouldn't have given you her number. Be polite on the phone by asking her how she is and stuff, but don't keep her too long. Lengthy phone conversations can get uncomfortable quick when you don't know someone well enough yet. Be formal, be polite, ask her out, then tell her you'll see her then. Then go see her and be yourself. If she doesn't like you, that's okay. All that matters is you get the experience and you be yourself and be confident being yourself. Rejction is good, acceptance is good, experience is good. It's all good, even though it may not always appear that way. We learn the most from the mistakes that we make.

 

just be yourself

 

Pssht, I'd like to see how much these guys were pissing themselves their first times.

Don't let these guys worry you; all you gotta do is set up a time and place to chill, conversing just happens sometimes, but if it doesn't, it's pretty mechanical..

 

Have you phoned her up yet or what? How did it go? What did you say? What did she say? Are you going to meet up?

 

Just call her up and say hi, what's up, how are you, just simple shit. Anything to keep the conversation going. Make her laugh a little, be nice, and eventually you'll be in a good convo.

Just remember to talk. Sitting there on the phone saying nothing is something you should absolutely avoid.

 

oi, i'm a little hungry

lay me an egg, chicken.

 

Just call her up, make small talk for a little while, and then ask her if she'd like to go get coffee with you sometime. Try to appear confident and hey, she must like you already if she gave you her number! And she's probably just as nervous as you are.

 

Typically, this could be both the best, and the worst advice at the same time.

There are people out there who desperately need personality adjustments. If the real reason he's still concerned about how to make things work on the phone with a girl whose number he got. If being shy and nervous is part of his natural personality, then "being himself" is the worst thing he could do.

However, if you could change it to "be proud of yourself" that might be a better way to go. Being proud of yourself and your hobbies and interests is where confidence stems from.

 

Why?

Some people like when people are shy and nervous around them, especially when younger.

My girlfriend's shyness is a big part of what drew me to her.

 

be your self. if you think you might like this girl then dont play it cool, make sure she knows your interested, try to get to know her ask her what she likes etc and show genuine interest, if you want to meet her then at first dont make any romantic plans as thing will get awkward, try do something fun on first date ie tennis, paintball etc it would be particulary better if you choose an activity that your rubbish at because so then you wont look like a show of any best thing is to be natural, if she likes you good, if not then theres plenty more fish in the sea