Is this a good gift for a woman I really care about but can never be with?

Very soon it will be the birthday of someone who is really special to my heart. The story is extremely complicated so I will cut it short and say that it is almost impossible we'd ever be together, and however we hang out sometimes and I have good reasons to believe that the feelings might be mutual, but none of us would ever cross the friendship line. However, I have had many relationships, and she was ALWAYS in the background of my mind, and never stopped invading my dreams when I am sleeping, and I always felt sad as I awoke to realize that these were dreams. Nothing sexual AT ALL, although I am a total sex freak, but this one was / is always an exception.

My question is...

Her birthday is coming in a few days, and I have a special idea for a gift. I need your' input on this idea how would it probably make her feel to receive the following gift on her birthday:

She is going to be 31 year old. I want to get a really nice vase that she recently entered a shop and asked about Ï kept the notice in my mind that she likes this vase", and get thirty beautiful white roses arranged neatly inside, and one stunning red rose in the middle. "is red a good idea here btw?"

On the birthday card I am writing her a short but nice poem about her birthday, whereas if you read the first letter of every line it would be her name.

I am glad I am finally sharing this with someone, even when it's a talk just on the internet.

 

I like the idea, but did you know that white roses have several meanings: “You’re heavenly,” reverence and humility, innocence and purity, “I’m worthy of you,” and secrecy and silence.

And a single red rose in bloom means: "I love you."

Pale colors convey sociability and friendship. You might want to consult the florist on your choice of colors.

 

That's exactly what I meant by the colors' combination. I do think she is heavenly, and the red rose remains subject to more thoughts; should I be that direct and put it there, or better choose a more 'convenient' color since such love cannot happen and it would be pointless to put a red rose in the middle?

 

It is really complicated, but more info is here:

http://www.dearcupid.org/question/what-kind-of-a-connection-is-this.html

 

I don't know the laws in Egypt about messing with a married woman. Or how she feels about you. But it seems to me you'd be taking a big risk conveying your love to her while she is married.

Roll the dice if you feel okay with it. What's the worst that can happen?

 

Nothing too bad, and in all seriousness I will never act on my feelings stupidly ever. It is just something real and pure and I wanted to let her know. Moreover, feelings with this strength are not of our choice. They choose us unfortunately, not the opposite.

 

Sounds like a good idea, i'm confused as to why you just don't tell her how you feel.

I'm not sure whether she is still married, but if you like someone you should always try to be with the one you care about.

But yeah, she'll like it, though may find it romantic.

 

And I already wrote the poem where every first letter of every line would form her name, and the last two lines of it would say that there is a hidden name in the poem.

 

Hi All,

Do you think it'd be better to substitute the red rose with a blue one? Provided that the blue refers to the unattainable / impossible?

 

No go with the red. The reason is that it is standard and if she does not wish to acknowledge any meaning other than it is a lovely arrangement of flowers she can have a graceful out and so can you.

 

Thanks Heat. I will do this.

 

UPDATE:

She loved the poem, apologized for not being able to accept the roses for understandable reasons. We had dinner and wine and an awesome time in general.

 

Does she have children?? Does she love you more than him?? If the answers are no and yes respectively, don't let something like marriage get in the way of what could be a real wedding!

 

Congrats, glad you had a nice evening.

 

Thanks peeps. She texted me this morning asking me not invite them out again "She and the daughter" because they bring a lot of problems and they waste my time!!! Just because the kid cried last night which didn't bother me a bit!!! I made it clear how happy EXACTLY I was feeling yesterday, and because I am not stupid I can tell you confidently she was as happy as I was yesterday! No reply yet.

 

a little concerned that you're going to get hurt, you sound like a wonderful, considerate person, but then, we all get hurt in love.
hope she never lets you down eternal soul

 

^ Now THAT was sweet and nice of you to say! Thanks. I don't get hurt easily anyway don't worry.