I got to know the other three girls fairly well. Occasionally we spent time socializing. We weren't "best friends" but I figured we were close enough to "stay" friends. Then I get laid off. Since then we've had one social outing which was about two/three months ago. Recently I tried to do another one and I got the cold shoulder. They all sounded like they were going to come and then started coming up with lame excuses last minute. Now when I call them, no one calls me back. What happened? Just because we no longer work together, why can't we enjoy each other's company? I suddenly feel like that "annoying girl" whom no one wants to associate with. It shouldn't bother me but it does. It hurts pretty bad. I really liked these people. I've always been nice to them. I'm always real with people. I don't like beating around the bush or playing games. I really cannot see what went wrong here and it hurts that they won't even talk to me. I don't even know why I care...now with my newer job I have some "friends" but I feel hurt from this past experience. It's effecting my view of new people I meet.
The world is an unfair place. Don't sweat it. Friends come in and out of your life like busboys in a restaurant. What matters is that you learned something valuable and know there is no sense holding onto anger and hurt. I'm sorry.
When someone doesn't want to be my friend I send them a gift basket (wine, cheese, crackers and sausage- it's romantic. Trust me, women would rather have that then flowers) Then.. they will be your friends, they will know you care.
Spirit family friends will be wiv you even in your dark times these are true friends - this is what you need people who understand the whole of you, the good the bad and the dam ugly bits!
I wonder whats going on at the office they are still working at. Hmm....... if they are having a really hard time and are emabarressed to talk to you that could be an issue. Just a thought. Overall though the situation sucks but is not uncommon. In my 20s I have had so many friends come and go. I think sometimes people are in our lives for specific reasons so they are only around for a short period of time. When we lose them...they are just making space for the new people who will come along. It already sounds like you are making new friends at your new job. Just go with the flow and see what happens.
...Imho, they were work colleagues that you occasionally went out with. ...Not BFFL. You sound too good for them.
