Whats so great about marriage anyway?

Marriage is for the insecure and will become wholly obsolete if Universal healthcare ever comes to pass.

 

Repped.

 

Mr Noodle--what does one have to do with the other? I don't get it. What Heat said was reasonable.

 

I can't seem to disagree or agree with this.

Does anyone here watch Mad Men?

Since his divorce in between seasons 2 and 3, Don Draper is a different man. The confidence he once had, the ease in which he moved about through life is, is gone.

But does that mean he is insecure now? Or just that, he was more secure before?

 

It's not necessarily about insecurity; some couples (most, I hope) do it because they feel getting married is taking the relationship to a new upper level. And I understand their point of view.

Even though I want a monogamous LTR, I don't think marriage is for me. I like to be single and a marriage wouldn't deepen my commitment to a relationship - I already give my all to all of my relationships, be it with friends or with a partner. However, this is only my option. I won't say it should be applied to every couple just because it works for me.

 

I think love and deep companionship are quite nice....

The thing I don't quite understand about marriage is the legal contract itself. It just seems obsolete to me now. What is the point in the legality of it? Tax purposes? Medical benefits? A legal contract for those purposes cheapens the idea of marriage, in my opinion.

For me, personally, provided I ever meet someone that fits me in a way that I want to spend the rest of my life with them, I am going to make a spiritual committment and avoid all that legal junk...but thats just me

I really do like the idea of growing old with someone, however. its nice.

 

I don't know, them tax breaks sure are nice.

 

Why the need for a ritual and all the trapping's that come with it if the love you feel is real, why the need to get the government involved at all?

Marriage works on the same principle as a promise ring recieved from a good friend in childhood, a simple symbol to show you care because you know your word is simply not good enough.

Till death do you part?

You sure? lol

 

Because you can dump him and take his money.

 

Finally some reason.

 

And you wonder why men would rather just have a string of flings than tie themselves to someone

 

Blame evolution.

 

Very good insight, Heat!
The successful marriages that I have witnessed has one other key component.. supporting each other as individuals without changing each other. Most often people settle on a spouse because they're in a hurry to take the next step on the list. Little things get overlooked with thoughts that it can easily be changed. Generally these are the very things that end up causing major turn-offs down the road..

The greatest respect you can give each other is to repect individuality.

Just marry the person you don't feel you 'need' to change..