Its so hard not to be insecure!

As a young American girl I am subject to all sorts of insecurities but it's mostly coming from myself and not from the critical nature of others. I've never really had a bad experience with someone else putting me down physically or mentally but I still beat myself up. I guess that's just part of being human. One day I'd like to transcend it all but in the mean time I'll continue asking the question of the ages. "Does this make me look fat?"

 

take a minute to read my post [My Attitude: FUCK FLAKES!!] it will give you a pretty good view on guys and girls these days and why shit never works out.

also say this- "I am enough. I trust the universe to supply me with an abundance of pussy (or in your case.. i guess that would be dick). I freely let go of what i do not need and welcome change."

basically fuck it. your enough. love yourself. if hes got issues, they are no ones problem but his. move on to the next one. accept ONLY love when it comes to relationships. unconditional love - putting up with bullshit = HAPPINESS.

 

hey stace. eh. fuck blondes. your still hot in my book

 

yea only blondes can be hot
dark hair makes your face ugly

 

Heh, this is where the good mind f**** IS.

 

This is nice to see.

This is what you need to do, Stacy. You need to take responsibility for your thoughts and feelings and stop leaving them in the hands of others.

 

Seriously shut up duck. I do take responsibility all the time. Every fucking day I get judged, you really think I give a fuck? No. But when guys who want to just blurt out every thing that I find a flaw to my face when I havent heard it in years, yeah..im going to be hurt, im going to look for support.

 

blame yourself.your the one who lets their shit get to you

 

Why are you exploding on me? What did I do?

If you don't like my advice, that's fine but what the fuck?

 

cause i hate when people tell me "blame yourself" shit.

you should re read my thread "even the strongest women can get hurt" hence I do take responsibility but im really hurt atm. so basically i dont need that "take responsibility" shit. I DO. Im just not as strong right now.

and plus im talking about others too. Who are strong but still get hurt at times. Im asking why? why would people run into guys like this? I'll never know but it sucks thats there are still ignorant people out there. Always will be.

Im trying to find different ways of handling it rather than laughing it off. so much laughter can get me crying eventually.

Sorry to explode. People on here really dont know me well like in RL and that always slips my mind.

 

Sounds to me like the last guy felt rejected and because of that he wanted to try to hurt you. My opinion is that if a guy is coming on to you strong sexually after just meeting you he is probably only interested in having fun with you and doesn't seem likely he's serious about a relationship. Unfortunately this seems to be the norm in bars and clubs. Firstly you gotta get over your insecurities as those make you vulnerable and your vulnerabilities can be exploited. Remember just like women are extremely attracted to the confident man, it also works the other way around. The higher your confidence the more attractive you will become to others. At the end of the day I think the crux of the matter is happiness. If you can truly be happy without needing someone else to make you feel good you wouldn't feel insecure. Physical activity and playing team sports is supposed to be great for improving wellbeing. Firstly though you should be looking at your diet as this has a huge impact aswell on your wellbeing. Most of the animals that are available are fed diets that are deficient and thus if you eat them you will become deficient aswell. Do you know what they are deficient in ? TRYPTOPHAN, which is what converts to serotonin. Fish is also supposed to be a good source but I've got enough mercury fillings in my mouth thanks. My favorite source is hemp powder as it's cheap and safe. The other thing I would look into is what kind of water your drinking. Water is crucial to the detoxification of your system and if it's toxic as most tap water is, well you know the rest. Oh yeah also stay away from aspartame artificial sugars, msg, NaF and BGH. P.S. msg has over 20 names and counting as they really want you to get it !

 

I think that's the sound of someone being slightly over sensitive. Which makes you wonder just how reliable anything in this thread actually is.

No offense, but maybe you should stop seeking everybody else's downfalls- try seeing the good in people instead. That's sound enough advice, I believe.

And, if in doubt, fuck it. Everybody gets ridiculed or put down, it's not just you- it's more about how a person can bring themselves above it rather than stooping to another's level.

 

Hit the nail on the head.

 

i totally understand some guys can be asshole and make you feel shit about yourself but when it comes down to it they arent very happy with the way they are and you should inbrace your flaws there what make you who you are and one day youll find a guy who thinks your flaws are adorable so i wouldnt worry about all the assholes who think its ok to bring you down.

 

totally man, that is why if you understand beauty, not what common folks perceive it as who are exactly, media brainwashed, then you shouldn't have a problem from the influence of that.
the people who are brainwashed are the ones with the problems.
my sister does the same thing, but with short brunettes with big tits. she hates all of them. and talks bad about all of them. normally glares at them.

this is what made me want to reply, that is so disgusting of him man! but seriously who is HE? nothing. dude was just looking for a nut, which is mostly all that goes through the brainwashed homo-sapien males of today. are women brainwashed to feel victim? if someone is really so bored and they hurt by the refusal of sex they tear apart the persons physical features THEY have a HUGE problem man. no matter how bad you feel (felt for your case) at that moment you just have to remember that no matter how much your feelings got hurt that that dude who just said this to you has such an ego problem, which is way worse then being flawed to ONE saying person, and he is worthless : when you are comfortable with this you can then realize that you were the one hurting yourself at the time of. all in all you are required to be happy(content)with yourself lol and you can change things for yourself if it is that important.

 

Being secure is not as hard as being insecure.

 

it is not as hard if you are not really insecure, it is not easy to be secure when you are insecure. some take it to the bone; ze inner core.

 

Been both. Secure is easier. Insecurity is based on lies. Uncover the lies and we see there is nothing to fear and a lot of people don't merit your time.

 

So far as I have experienced, there is only security in the truth. The rest is just a bunch of crap.

 

yes i agree . but like i said, some take it to the bone
"common" sense humanoidizm are like magnets to all that is nothing.