I need to have the relationship talk with a fourteen year old

the flirting around has just been going on to long, maybe I should let it just break apart by walking away. It'd be so much easier if she returned my email instead of all positive feedback I get only in person.

We're so close to kissing, the last time we were hanging out we were very close. She said she missed me and I admitted I did to. I told her to contact me before the school year, that I have a car and could see her without waiting for an occasion that combines our families, she consented but has said nothing. So next time we need to talk.

I like her but will I say that. I know from the looks, dancing, hand holding, hugs, and touches that she must feel at least a little something. I also have to mention the worries caused by her young age. I can' talk to any of my friends about this they just couldn't understand. God it's embarrassing but I feel the spark and like always I just have to see where it goes.

 

my kid probably banged more 14 year olds than you...oh wait...he is 14 so he can,,,,,

 

HAHA wait till your 21 and meet OLDER girls LMAO!

 

jailbait

 

You'd be welcome to sit in the group therapy sessions I conduct with Paroled Sex Offenders...if you join the group now you won't have to wear the ankle braclet and carry the GPS unit. Also you might be able to sit more comfortably than some of the young guys your age who got sent off for 5 to 7 years....they had friends out the ass in the joint. And right now you don't have lifetime registration as a sex offender...your picture and address aren't on the internet. Wise up quick and run or maybe I'll see you in group.

I shit you not the stuff you are thinking about can destroy your life....not to mention a 14 year is still a kid no matter how mature you think she is so leave her alone.

 

I can not say that I approve very much.

 

Hmmm

To the guys reading this thread you are going to sound like a monster, to the girls reading this thread, sounds like the 14 yr old is the aggressor

So, yeah there is what yapario said

But theres also what Heavenly Bohemian said, give it another couple years and wait to see what girls like this 14 yr old turn into ten years later

 

Absolutely nothing good can come of this.

 

my therapist was talking about that same thing but i'd never make our relationship that physical it's just she's too young to make big choices. It seems from the laws (I've read) that only oral copulation (blow job), vaginal intercourse, and anal sex are illegal. I'd love to have the judgment of a lawyer but the legal matters really don't form the conditions of my lovelife.

I imagine the farthest I'd go would be second base so you all can rest assuure that I'm not going to be doing anything immoral. I'm not a virgin and I can more or less find sex I just like her and that confuses me and she confuses me. I know my friends would think so much less of me for already going through the consideration. I don't normal get anxious but this is making me anxious too much emotion and chance for awkwardness. I'm already embarrassed that this has carried on. I just enjoy her company, her pure affection, and true I have slept with three women. I never had a happy relationship and right now we feel happier then this life's attempts.

 

I'm more worried about it from a mental and emotional standpoint. You should be looking for people of more mature persuasions and more serious lifestyles than an 14 year old has.

 

wait until she is 18 and your 24 its not that far away and if you cant then you dont really care about here in an appropriate way. So if you can't wait go out and find a nice girl your own age.

 

don't worry ...she will be 24 when you are paroled ....just tell her to keep checking the sex offender registry for your new address

 

Of course you feel embarrassed because you know its wrong but your dick is telling you its right :toetap05:

I suggest you police up your dick before the cops pick you up for statutory rape

Hotwater

 

Dude realise that at 14 there is alot of shit going on besides just the love, sex, and raging hormones bullshit. Have you noticed how fast teen crushes change. One week it's Zack Effron the next it's Justin Bieber. Chances are if you invest any type of adult emotional stuff in this "Relationship" you will be sorely dissappointed and alone quickly. Then she may start emotionally maturing in a direction that you don't like. Do yourself a favor and see the new version of "Lolita" with Jeremy Irons.

Peace Out,
Rev J

 

This is all bad. Just say no.

You do realize that your interest in this girl, whether she reciprocates or not, is IMMORAL. You do realize that even if you do not actually copulate with her, you can still go to jail. All they have to do is prove that you were attempting to have illegal contact with her. So, when you say its just kissing and you weren't going to do anything else, do you think people will believe you?

You need to keep going to the therapist. If you cannot control your urges and just leave this all alone, you need to remove yourself from society.

 

Let’s not go overboard

We’ve all seen at least a few 14 year old girls who are smoking hot and who we'd love to fuck but resist the temptation.


Hotwater

 

SPEAK FOR YOURSELF!!

I can resist anything but temptation

 

Ditto. I find a woman attractive. A woman is more than just a sexually mature form. A woman is an adult who can keep up with me mentally, emotionally, and physically. A 14 y/o is neither.

Also, this guys "interest" is more than a passing attraction. I'm jumping of the ship and saying it again. It's IMMORAL.

 

Telling a person that they are bad is no way to help them.

If you don't have anything positive to contribute; fuck off.



It's oh so moral to pass judgment

 

I don't think any of us can pass judgement based on the rather sketchy details the OP provided.

A patriarchal role is not necessarily bad, although a (sexually or otherwise) exploitative relationship would not be on.

I'd be curious to hear her thoughts on the matter,