Hair cut while growing hair out

Well I decided a few months ago I wanted to grow dreads or at least grow my hair long and possibly form dreads.

My hair was pretty short when I decided this and I have no had it cut in about 4 months. Right now my hair is just at or a little over 4 inches.

What I want to ask is how many of you, mainly the ones who cut their dreads off and decided right away to grow them back, cut their hair while it was growing?

I have a recieved some complaints that my hair looks "weird" (from G/f and Mom) and they say I need to get it "trimmed?"

I am nervous about this because it seems to go against my whole process of growing dreads. I havent even combed my hair in those 4 months.

So I have two questions. Did anyone get hair cuts while you were letting you hair grow out? or was it strictly no cut?

and my second question is should I get it cut? It seems to go against the process, but at the same time it could use a trimming.

Thanks

 

Letting it grow out and forming dreads are...they're not two different things but they are if that makes sense.

If you're going your hair long just to grow it well regular trims can be a benefit as all of your length is healthy vs some of it being damaged (split ends).

However if you haven't combed for 4 months congratulations you have a 4 month old set of freeforming dreadlocks. If this is the case, no you shouldn't cut them. You're reversing your progress especially if you're going for long dreads. I mean a lot of people's hair starts to knot from the tip up. You'd be hacking off your progress.

 

That's How Mine Are Forming.....

Starts With A Little Loopy, Which Leads To A Bigger Loopy, Which

Eventually Leads To A Dreadling.....



Cheers Glen.

 

I was born with my dreads.
The proper way

praise Jah Marley brah

 

Your've Been Drinking Your Moms Cooking Sherry Again, Haven't You....?



Cheers Glen.

 

one must drown his sorrows somehow

 

I don't believe that "you have to trim it for it to grow" bullshit. Your hair grows from your scalp, not your tips. If you want dreads and have already started with the non-brushing thing why bother trimming it?! So what people say it looks weird. It's your hair.

Edit: And the title of this thread is hypocritical. You can't grow your hair out if you cut it.. jees.

 

the only thing that is messed up about this is that you're listening to your mom and g/f. do wahtever you want as far as trimming, but it's probably best to learn how to ignore others now or you'll be in big trouble once you actually start seeing/getting locks.

 

I promise if they don't like it now, they're going to kill small animals when you actully start locking up.

Some haircuts look funny growing out, my high school where hair nazis, and had rules about hair touching collars and eyebrows and the like, and due to me always pushing the limits and then some, it looked strange when it started growing out with my bangs and all porportionatly longer than how they had been. But the only thing to do is let it go and get past it as soon as possible.... cutting it is counterintuitive, and if you want dreads, you want all the length you can get, but a bit more or less here or there won't matter anyway, it's going to shrink and whatnot, unless you want the most ugly uniform dreads ever.

So just let it go. Tell them that about micromanaging your hair, with dreads they're going to be shit out of luck anyway, so they might as well get used to it now.

 

I understand, I have to deal with this especially growing my hair the way I want to, but its possibly the 2 most influentional women in my life, so I am obviously going to hear what they say.


Thanks for the replies.

 

What about oprah?

 

im that person
id grow them out and be all OCD and shit i guess
and cut the messy ends to look better
but this is rendered pointless because
thoses ends do the same
DREADIFY
as bob marley might have said
"let it grow "??

 

lmao

 

I don't see what you'd be gaining by cutting. The more length, the faster your hair will dread, period. You need to learn (if you want locks), that it doesn't matter what anyone else says...your locks are you!..your own unique expression of your inner character. Do you think Rastas or Vikings cared what others thought about their 'hair'?...In general, people will look at you with a closed mind and you'll get plenty of stares and dirty looks...but, IMO, that is what makes your character strong and shows the ignorance and pettiness that you don't need. If people can't stand it, they don't deserve you, plain and simple. If they just need a bit of education to show them where they are misinformed, then clear it up. Don't let other people get in your way...if dreads are what you want, then don't let anyone interfere...this is your journey.

 

^ Tru Dat.

When I moved to a new town, people tried to make an issue out of my hair and I was some tree hugging hippy. But I made it clear from the offset that it's just hair and if all they want to do is talk about my hair then go talk to other people about it.

Who cares if people think you need a trim? If the end result is dreadlocks then trimming your 4in hair isn't going to give you dreadlocks.

It sounds to me like your mum and GF reckon if they nag you enough, you'll trim and won't dread.

 

^ Well said.

4 inches of hair isn't a lot and dreads will shrink for awhile before they gain much of any length...i'll say this again - if you want dreads, you'll have to surrender to the process and not give a fuck about how they look or how other people think they look... The end results will be killer if you can stick it out for the long term (especially since it sounds like you want to go the natural/neglect route ).

I remember when my Mom didn't like the fact that I was growing dreads..."don't you want your hair to have luster?"...lol...i said "hell no...i want to be free of vanity and free of worrying about what other people think"...so, basically what i'm saying is, do you want to impress other people, or do you have the confidence/faith in what the journey will give you...and by that I don't just mean a beautiful head of locks...i also mean, a rejection of society's idea of beauty, of how you should live and the transition into living your life freely, uninhibited by perceptions and living in harmony with your higher self that intuitively knows the right way to inspire and aspire for something better...the right way to live and love. I trust you'll make a decision that is right for you at this point in your life...and in the end, it's just hair and can be clipped short, or grown out knotty again some day...but, the lessons learned are something you'll have for the rest of your life...

 

Pretty sure he said in another thread that he did it already

But he does need to understand now that if he's vain enough to cut his hair at the urging of others, dreads will not be in his future.... Gotta work on that.... Why not use dreads as the time to practice some self confidence? They pretty much force you to have some, once you really start locking up.

 

Yeah, it would've done him good to learn the patience and self-confidence that locks bring. But, for the most part, people who grow locks for a 'hairstyle' end up not being ready for the 'lifestyle' that epitomizes the process. Oh well, can't say we didn't try.

 

Yeah I cut it. I understand I have to ignore peoples remarks, but the two people complaining were the people that I do care about what they say, which is why I got it cut.

In they end they both like it better but I dont. IMO, it was a waste of 30 bucks

Oh well, it wont be cut for a while now!

 

Hmm...so you made them happy and not yourself...and the haircut was 30 bucks?! ...I'm sorry, I'm not probably making you feel any better...I just want YOU to be happy...

Here's a story that I think relates somewhat to your current life: I have a friend who is a killer drummer...he gave up playing drums for a couple years, so he'd please his girlfriend (get to spend more time with her, etc.) She ended up cheating on him/breaking up with him later and he regrets that he gave up drums during those years.

In the end, I just hope you make YOURSELF happy...and it's just hair...people should be more tolerant, but I know how women can be....

Well, if you decide to give it another try and grow out your hair again, you know we'll be here to help you along. Best of luck.