True love & good sex are hand-in-hand

I dont think that it is possible to have true love without having good sex. Though it is entirely possible to have good sex without true love. When you are truly in love this implies that you are on the same emotional wavelength, and that is key in the bedroom. I don't think it is possible to not enjoy sex with someone you are deeply in love with, and I think good sex enhances and confirms the notion of true love in its moments of passion.
I believe beyond a doubt that I have found my true love, and he is the absolutely best sexual partner I have ever ever had. At least that's how it seems to me because I love him so much that it brings the already good sex to a whole new level. I think emotional and sexual chemistry are symbiotic and both are necessary in deciding whether someone is your true love or not. Sex is a primal instinct and one of the reasons love exists is to encourage this instinct with a single partner, so as to lead to reproduction and to have a healthy family unit.

 

Considering sex is required for you to be born, this is so. Beyond that it is not so. Your love for parents as a child is true. Your love for siblings is true. The only thing that is different with sex is the level of sensation. Reproductive hormones manifest themselves as "loving" desire. There is only one love manifested in many ways.

 

For me, the intense emotional and mental connection expressed through the body is the most important aspect of sex, so mainly I agree with your thoughts, but there are one or two other factors to consider.

You can be in love and still not be very physically experienced, which means practice with your lover, a bit of time learning where they like to be touched. Of course after a while this becomes better and better. This also links with the mind. You must have a very trusting and profound connection to share your fantasies and turns ons etc and explore them fully together, and be considerate of eachothers differences.

You can also be in love but not very quick to learn new tricks, so while the emotion is there, the means of expressing it would not be as fantastic as they could be.

It's like learning to dance. While most of it is coming from deep inside, from your heart and mind and is just totally natural, instinctual...another portion has certain moves you can learn to incorporate into the dance, which takes physical practice and remembrance, and together they make something incredible.

 

You can definitely experience true love without even having had sex with the person. It is an important part of a relationship, and can open up a whole different side, but for me it has never made me love someone any differently.

But, then I wouldn't enjoy having sex which some stranger, as much as with someone I love. So it works the other way round for me.

 

True love doesn't exist, soul mates are a silly concept, and human beings never truly find themselves content with one person.

Someone says to me they have found the one, the one that helps them physically breathe, their life blood- they forget to mention they had done fine before they'd met and they couldn't help staring at that young girls ass in the gym.

The fact is, you'll never stop fancying other people, though that's lust and not love, lust is just as much a relevance to sex and by doing so you're giving a part of yourself away to somebody else.

You can have a good sex life without love, you can love someone without sex.

 

I think young and healthy people take this for granted. I always think one day I may not be able to have sex. We may have to spend months apart. One day we'll be old and may either not want to or it wont be possible. Makes me really appreciate it now, and of course know that it's not everything. Love is about a mental and emotional connection. Sex is a great expression of this, but it's there whether the sex is or not.

 

I agree with you . Romance is the egos substitute for love. As fantastic as sex can be, it is an intoxicating substance. Also Some very loving couples have problems with sex being unsatisfying.

Further having sex with someone can sometimes make you feel as though you love somebody and cannot live without them, even though if you were really clear headed about, you probably would find yourself not even liking this person. This is the effect of reproductive hormones. Love, as a feeling, is produced chemically.

Romance is possessive and self centered.

 

My own experiences tend to confirm this idea...

 

And this, too...

 

How the hell do you know?

ditto.


There's a difference between saying "I don't think true love exists" and saying "I know that true love does not exist". If you really loved somone, you would believe in love. If you haven't, then you might be inclined to think that it is false, and that those who *think* they are in love are just not smart enough to realize this.

And it may be that you are motivated to believe in love's non-existance because to say it does exist, yet you don't have it, might be painful.

It is your choice to beleive or not beleive in love, but I don't see a basis for a universal declaration.

This notion that love, or any aspect of ourselves, exists only as a chemical, is misleading. Does that mean then that free will does not exist, because everything is reducable to chemical/physical reactions in the brain? And wouldn't this therefor mean that your very notion that the self is reducable to the physical, is itself physical, and therefor without validity? We could just tweek the right neurons, and you would beleive something else.

I think it is possible to see the brain as mirroring our emotional experience without necessarily existing as a totalizing entity.

I no longer have faith in the western materialistic world view as being capable of describing all of the phenomena of the world.

 

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Well, it is not my notion. I said the sensation of love was chemically produced. Perception is not knowledge. We love what we know, we are ambivalent with our "feelings". Our feelings can totally deceive as to their function and origin. For instance tobacco smoking appears pleasurable but it wastes the body. We can and often are addicted to pleasurable sensations.
reproductive hormones can make you feel lonely, jealous, and irresponsible, as well as fantastic.
I said there is one love that appears in many forms. I did not say there was no love.

Nor should we have blind faith in the sensational nature.

 

I will say though that I think the "soul mate" concept gets thrown around alot just because the idea of just being in love doesn't sound cool enough.

 

Well the idea that a person has especially outstanding qualities suited specifically only for us is errant. There are people though who are a functional fit. Fitness however in human terms, is a matter of timing.

 

Maybe you've been using a dildo too much, and that has kept you from finding your true love!

 

I'm God. Next question.

 

Yep.

 

I'm the same.

I don't think I could have sex with a stranger, it means way more to me than that. It's sharing something with someone you want to share that with. It's something that you don't share with your family who you love, you share it with someone else, I just don't see it as an act or thing, I see it as part of me, just like my passions and my person, I wouldn't share those with just any stranger.

Edgar Allan Poe actually married his younger cousin. He apparently never had sex with her either. Read some of his letters to her, if that isn't love I don't know what is.

 

God doesn't exist and neither does true love!

 

In my view, sex should be irrelevant in a loving relationship. That is to say, it would be in a more ideal world, as it clearly isn't right now. I think when virtual reality gets advanced enough, people everywhere will finally calm down and be more forgiving and tolerant about sex, since the reproductive and biological risks would be eliminated.

I believe once that happens, sex will just be another recreational activity to be engaged in innocently and privately with anyone, as long as it's virtual. Since humans are sexual creatures who are predisposed to have multiple partners, the presumably private relationships that would form in this virtual environment would probably be casual and numerous in many cases. However, there could also be intimate, monogamous, and life-long sexual relationships in this environment as well. The big question is if people can handle having one purely sexual relationship with one person or persons in a virtual environment, while having a serious relationship with a lover in the real world.

This real world relationship would ideally be between a loving couple, in my opinion. They would have a more cerebral connection deeper than any sexual desire. If they wanted children, they could either have sex or go with artificial insemination. If sex can become uncomplicated and more easily attainable, then perhaps so too can love.

 

The opposite can be true, some of the best sex I've had has been with those I totally objectified.

Being objectified oneself can be extra dirty / naughty / primal