My mum wont let me use tampons HELP!

I am a 16 year old virgin (in terms of no penetration) and i want to try tampons.I feel uncomfortable wearing pads with the blood and all sitting under my fanny and the worry of the pad moving.I asked my mum if i can use tampons instead but she went ballistic saying i shouldnt stick any thing up "there" and i will no longer be a virgin as my hymen would be torn (she doesnt no it already has shh) i explained to her what a virgin actually means but she is not having any of it.I always regret having my periods because of pads

I know there is no way to convince her so i need some advice.Should i just use it behind her back ?

p.s im intrested in the mooncup things but it looks massive! and its scary .i dont think i will be able to put it up there without it hurting terribly because i have never had penetrative sex.I dont know what to do please help

 

Yes you should. Your body, your rules. Mom can wear all the pads she wants.

 

If you can buy tampys with your own money, then go ahead and use them. If you can't buy them without mom's money then you'll just have to stick it out 2 more years. My mom didn't like me using them either, but at that age I bled too heavily (sorry) for pads and I think she got tired of constantly scrubbing the stains out of my laundry, so she just had to get used to it.

 

Do you not have a sibling or a friend who can buy them for you? Is there a sex ed/nurse room at your school that might? When I was in high school they handed out free condoms and other things to promote sexual health, I don't know if this 'counts' so to speak.

 

bleed on the couch..

 

best idea ever!

no, seriously, if you did that, she would get fed up and have no choice....assuming you've exhausted all other options.

seems rather ridiculous what your mom is doing, I don't get allot of peoples parents, I've never heard of anyone's mom saying that.

 

I like the couch idea...or leave a trail on the floor...that may change her mind

if that doesnt work then do the behind her back thing

 

Get a job...and buy them yourself?

 

I always detested pads and did not use them again after the first few cycles.

When my daughter started, I requested that she not use tampons for only the first 3 months so that we would know what her cycles actually were like and be able to tell if there were changes.

After 3 months she switched to tampons.

Perhaps your mom is not familiar with tampons and feels that it will rupture your hymen. Inform her about it, as using a tampon does not damage the hymen. It could just be that she has never used them and is not familiar with information about them.

If all else fails then find a way to purchase tampons on your own and do so.

 

im not a real women, lol.. but I think being young and all, that possibly your mom has Toxic Shock Syndrome on her mind.. many young women get this because putting a cotton ball up your vagina and not letting the blood out can be cause problems in some women... just tossing that out there, and dont be like kenny and put it in your butt..
youll explode..

 

Unless you sought after a statistical chance of yeast infections, don't use tampons.

 

there is minimal risk of infections and TSS with tampons if you use them right. That means changing them frequently.

 

i'm not a chick either but what does your mom care if you use tampons or not?! Will she really freakout if she catches you, i say go ahead it's your gina!

 

I get yeast infections all the time and I've never once used a tampon

 

{sigh} ok ... first of all, I'm not a woman, so, by all means, bring on the flames ... :chillpill:

... but I have NEVER understood the value women (and especially experienced women / mothers) seem to place on intact hymens. Was the searing pain of losing her virginity REALLY something that she cherishes and wants her daughter to experience?

And even if tampon use doesn't tear the hymen, it CERTAINLY familiarizes a young woman with those areas of her body she may not have had the opportunity or forethought to explore before (maybe this is why neurotic, overly-Christian mothers fear it).

But at VERY least, tampon use familiarizes a young woman with the sensation of being penetrated, so that when she finally experiences sexual intercourse, she wont have the embarrassing and mortifying experience of vaginismus, due to the uncontrollable reflex of the vulvular/vaginal muscles contracting to defend against the perceived "intruder."

Why a mother wishes that experience on her daughter is SO beyond me!

Ok, now, since I'm male, and have no right to such opinions, I guess you can start the flames now ...

 

I agree that the whole hymen thing is ridiculous and pointless and girls should be exploring their bodies, and if these mothers knew anything they'd know that the hymen can break during rigorous activity anyway. Plus it means nothing. Virginity is about not having had sex yet.

I even dislike the word "virginity" though. People seem to think it implies there's something THERE to be taken away. What rubbish. I don't think of people who haven't had sex as "virgins". They're just people who haven't had sex yet. It's like people who haven't tried Marmite yet or got a drivers licence or whatever else....not a big deal.

But I have to say, all the women I've spoken to say their first time was neither painful nor uncomfortable, and mine wasn't either, despite never using tampons. Tampons wont prepare you for sex. I mean lets face it, most girls will prepare themselves for that in other ways anyway.

 

my mom tried that same bullshit with me when i was fourteen. "you'll get an infection!" "you just don't need to use those!" etc. i went to camp that summer and was SO pissed at her when i had to stay in my room while all the others went swimming bc i was embarrassed to admit i didn't know the first thing about tampons. a week later i came home and one night she got drunk. she went to wal mart for more beer and i rode with her. in her clouded state of mind, she agreed to buy me a box. so i would say the solution is to get your mother drunk.

 

Ironically that's the same way she got pregnant

 

hahahaha nope, she just got lazy with remembering her pill while she was in college.

 

I hate tampons, I tried using them, and it hurt putting one in and taking it out. never again, I only tried one cause I was on my period and I had plains to go swimming that day