Not attracted to women or older guys :(

Hi,

I am so confused about my sexuality so please help me out, please hear me out and don't judge me. I am a 22 year old male, I have no problem attracting females, in fact I could get one every night of the week, and gay men are attracted to me however I am not sure if I fancy them. I can look at pictures of naked women and they do nothing to arouse me, I may be able to get an erection when engaging in foreplay however I find it hard to maintain this erection, even during intercourse the vagina may feel tight at first but soon feels too loose to give me any real stimulation. On rare occasions I see a woman with model hot looks and feel my heart flutter, however I am not sure if If this is a sexual feeling or just intimidation by pure beauty, my confidence has been knocked by too many lost erections when trying to make out with woman that I don't dare have sex with really hot women.

My real problem here is that I want the whole 'girl - boy' then a 'man - wife' and eventually kids situation in my life. The real problem is I am not sure I have any attraction to women. I have made out with a guy once and enjoyed kissing him and eventually I got drunk and gave him a blowjob. It felt nice, but I felt dirty and disgusted with myself, a feeling I do not get with women.

I do not want to have to use viagra with women when my dick functions more than well enough provided I am aroused, however the deeper problem is that my attraction to males is more of an ephebobic nature, meaning that I desire very youthfull characteristics. I am very fussy and like my guys to look very young, the ideal age for me is 12 - 13, I know this is wrong and for this reason have not slept with a guy below 18 or ever tried anything, however I am not attracted to masculine guys. I love the lines, the hairless curves of younger males. That twink or almost pubescent look. I hate this so much, I don't want to feel these desires. I'd so love to desire women or even older gay men, but this is not the way it works for me. I simply have no attraction whatsoever to the latter.

I am attracted to men of around 18 as well, to a lesser degree provided they still have those feminine characteristics. The main problem though is anal sex with a man kind of repulses me, I don't mind giving but the thought of receiving feels embarrasing to me, almost like my submission of manhood.

How do I go about experimenting whether the gay scene is right for me? It's clear I have these feelings and clear that I can't have natural relationships to the fullest of my regret with females. I've tried, but as soon as I see vagina I just lose all traces of my erection. HELP!!!!

How do I lose the feelings of attraction to much younger guys, I am a law abiding citizen and don't want to do anything that could put me where I don't want to be. Are these normal feelings?????

Thanks so much in advance for the help. God bless

 

I don't think anyone can make you have feelings for persons you don't have feelings for, and vice versa. I agree, you being 22, pursuing and being with 12-16-year-olds is not an option. I've never experienced what you are going through, in that the age of guys I feel attracted to increases as I myself get older, so I don't really know what it's like for you.
But there are plenty of older guys who do not look that masculine. Some guys even shave their body hair (unfortunate, if you asked me). I suggest you try it with those types. Also, our attraction to people is not only sexual, emotional attraction is also an ingredient. That means that with some guys you might not find yourself attracted to them before getting to know them a little better, including guys who maybe initially didn't do much to you look-wise. That's what my advice would be---go for the less masculine looking men and get to know them.


unbless.

 

Good news is that the things do change. Your attraction to very young males does NOT have to be a permanent fixture. It may or may not be temporary.

Unlike you, I am basically attracted to masculine looking males in their mid-20s to early 30s. Yet, I got to know a very wiry, slightly fem dude in his early 20s and found him sexually irresistible. If asked beforehand, I would have certainly said, "No. Nope. No way."

Over the time I discovered that I only think that I know whom I find attractive. When I meet someone in person and discover that they are authentic and functional, I suddenly feel the urge to explore, though on the face of things, they may not be "my type".

Last but not least, the choice of your casual sex partners may be one of the most overrated things in your life. This is where you want to lean back and enjoy. Coming from the tribe of the lucky ones "who could get anyone, anytime", I soon learnt that the better they looked the less interested they were in making the sex bit work. They too, could get anyone, anytime and felt that they did not need to put any effort into this. This is where I started focusing on functioning guys who thought that I was a good catch and were going out of their way to make sure we both had a great time worth repeating.

Life got so much better thanks to them

KD