do you think about the girl getting off in hookups?

well i am going to college next week. do girls care about thrmselves getting off?? should i just pound them like a jackhammer and run away after im done fucking her?

 

Spoken like a man who is not getting any.

 

Won't be getting any.

 

And isn't presently

 

i am a virgin. what do i do

 

Stop comparing yourself to power tools.

 

Fuck a woman. That's what I did.

 

Why would you think that woman want you to just run off and ignore her after you've had your fun?!

Seriously, a virgin you may be, but that's just daft.

 

It's a good thing Tipsy isn't a billy goat.

 

I'll probably regret asking, but, why?

 

I don't claim to be an expert here, but generally I think girls/women do seem to prefer to have sex that they enjoy than sex that they don't. Many have come to not expect to reach orgasm.

Most take great offense to fuck and run, but I suppose there are some who like it that way. It's generally a sign that you don't care about her at all. Who would be flattered by that? The one's who would want it that way wouldn't care at all about you, either.

I would say stop the quickie masturbation, slow it down. If you condition yourself to come quickly in masturbation, you will tend to come quickly in bed, which is generally a disappointment. At the same time, don't torment yourself over coming too quickly. If it happens, just accept it.

I really don't recommend having sex with girls that you care absolutely zero about. Even if your intentions are casual, I think it is better to have a little bit of caring there.

Some foreplay would probably be a good idea. Maybe some kissing and hugging. Massaging and sucking on her breasts. If she's into it, massaging her vagina with your finger or performing oral sex on her (if you have oral herpes, aka cold sores, be sure to use a dental dam. Dental dam might not be a bad idea in any case).

Just using a girl as a tool to cure yourself of your virginity does not sound like a good idea to me. Bad for her, bad for you too. You will probably be much happier if there is at least some positive connection there.

 

you gotta please your partner...unfortunately most men don't learn that until much later in their lives...learn to please and you might get lucky.

don't pressure anyone either, even if your dick is hard and blue balls are about to set in...respect and please

 

Cause I think I smell troll

 

jeez how selfish are you????

 

Regardless of how much advice you get or how much you read about technique, your first time is going to be awkward as can be.

I hope you get to enjoy it with somebody who won't make you self-conscious about it.

 

Okay. Fact is, you're probably not going to be very good. Don't worry, just relax, be yourself, it's all good. Unless she's your girlfriend, REALLY likes you for some unfathomable reason, or doesn't get hardly any play at all herself she's probably not gonna want to go for more dates afterwards, because you suck in bed. Don't worry! It's all good.

However! Now that you're planning on becoming sexually active, you owe it to yourself to get damn good. Whether you're a nice guy who only has sex with girls he really likes and wants to date, or because you're a conquest-minded dirty dog who wants a reputation that will get you a collection of fuck buddies and their friends, you need to get some serious skills and quick. And if you're not 7+ inches and/or gifted with the physique of a pro athlete (sumo only counts in Japan), that goes double.

Now, there's only so much I can tell you in a forum post to help you out here, so really, you need to educate yourself in a meaningful way. Spend hours reading about the shit, it won't do you wrong. Skip out on the porn you've been jacking it to and switch over to good instructional videos, like Nina Hartley's been putting out. Put some effort in, it will pay off.

Now, hopefully you know the basics, but judging by your post I'm not taking any chances, so here's the cliff's notes to bedding a woman successfully if she's not taking the lead:

First, a couple of general points: be smooth. Don't get too excited and lust-filled and affectionate, don't rush, don't act nervous, take the lead confidently, moving forward at just the right pace. And learn to cultivate a sense of what a girl likes or doesn't like in the moment, and gauge your actions accordingly. Pay attention to her breathing, the sounds she makes, how she reacts physically. It's a little different from girl to girl, but you can get a sense of someone pretty quickly once things get hot and heavy. These two things make everything easier, and are the real key. Obviously this is also practically impossible just starting out, but it's something to work towards.

More in the vein of that second point, be sure to talk to her about sex! Find out what she likes in bed. If you're smooth about it, and don't make it like a questionnaire, this almost counts as foreplay. If she's not as awkward and inexperienced about it as you are, she ought to have some idea, and she likely has fantasies otherwise. Don't press, don't be creepy, yeah, I know this is hard, but getting good at it will make it easier to get laid than anything else you can do, and help you make it good for her. Do it right and she'll get a little wet just talking with you.

Now, every once in a while you'll run into a girl who you have a lot of lust with, who's after your cock, and you'll get turned on talking to each other and just attack each other right off the bat, clothes off in under a minute and fucking almost immediately. This really does happen, it's not just in porn. But not most of the time, not by any stretch, and usually not when you're an awkward virgin. And you need to work on the basics for a while, build up your confidence anyway. Don't worry, everything's gonna be fine.

Make outs are awesome. Pay attention to her neck long before you go for the breasts. Hand on the hips, thighs (easy now, not inside of the thighs yet), arms, pull her close by the small of her back. Great! This is fun!

Okay, after several minutes, you're definitely ready to bring in the breasts and butt. Taking her by the ass and drawing her hips up against yours while you're making out is good. You can go inside thigh now, moving from around the back better than reaching between her legs. Petting, touching, squeezing, stroking, they all have their charms and particular flavors, don't want to get too into it here, but you can tell if she really likes it by her breathing, maybe a little moaning or grinding her hips. If she's getting hot you can take off her shirt, or tell her to take her top off, you want to suck on her tits. Trust me, you don't have the hang of removing a girl's bra, doing that with skill takes practice, and there's a few different types of clasps. Hotter to get her to do it. Now we're rolling, eh?

Now when it comes to nipples, everyone has different sensitivities. This is also true of clitorises, but we'll get to that. You aren't going to be able to tell what she's into unless you ask her. No big deal to experiment a bit and ask her after, either, but start slow. A little circular finger action's a good place to start, real gentle like, then you can get your face in there. Seriously, talk to her about what she likes. Probably to start you're safe with tongue circles and a little light suction. If she likes it harder, some pinching (only the lightest of twisting, never a purple nurple unless she's real kinky, which you are NOT ready for), heavy suction, maybe some biting between your lips. No teeth ever unless she says she likes her nipples abused, which is NOT most women. When in doubt, go more gentle, as a general rule, no matter what part of her body you're touching, unless she's been going on and on about liking a 'real man' and such.

Once you're sucking on her tits you can put your hand between her legs, rub her through her pants. Not too hard, not too much, you definitely don't want to rub her raw. Massaging the pubic mound's pretty good, nice low-friction indirect clitoral stimulation. Talk to her about what you want to do with her, about how turned on and wet she's getting, how bad you want her clit on your tongue. Dirty talk, man. You should be removing some articles of clothing here and there from yourself.

Get her pants off. You're ready to touch her genitals. Be GENTLE, but confident in your movements. If you aren't absolutely sure you can immediately identify the clitoris, labia, and vaginal opening, you need to do some research. There's a hood over the clitoris. And every clitoris is different. It comes in different sizes, different sensitivities, some closer to the vaginal opening, some further away. You probably can't tell until you've seen a bunch of them, but the ones that are closer to the vaginal opening usually (not always) belong to girls who cum from penetrative sex. These are the lucky 20-30% (there is some debate). If you don't have one of these girls, don't worry, there's still the 70% who are all about your tongue, and maybe some skillful finger use (more on that in a second). And most women like sex even if they're not getting off, though the less orgasm they're getting out of the deal, the more important a deep attraction becomes.

Again, communication is key-- you need to know how hard that clit needs to be worked for her pleasure. With fingers, indirect stimulation is probably plenty, or gentle against her clitoral hood. With the weaker muscles of the tongue and its natural lubrication, that's probably okay for more direct stimulation. As for more specific technique, go read some articles, this is a primer, and there's a wealth of info on giving good head. One trick I like when I've got her clit on my tongue is choosing that moment to drop a finger up inside. Now here's the thing about fingering-- it's neat and all, and like everything else when you're turned on, it feels good. But what feels REALLY good is G-Spot massage. A girl's g-spot is found inside the vagina, usually sort of behind her clitoris. So if she's on her back, your palm should be up as you're fingering her with your middle or middle and index fingers, massaging that spot in a sort of 'come hither' motion, not necessarily as far back as you can reach, but right on the other side of her clitoris. If she gets off vaginally, she will fucking LOVE this, like could deal with just this and no clitoral stimulation at all, most likely (though why not both?), but she'll probably really appreciate it regardless. If she's not that kind of girl, don't rely on it-- it's all about the tongue skills with most girls. Now, a significant percentage of women, again, like 20-30% don't get off at all. That's sad, but it doesn't mean they don't enjoy sex, though some definitely aren't into receiving oral. No big deal. Go down on her until she comes (or fakes it).

Be sure you have an STD chat, and talk birth control. Forget pulling out, you have no chance of making that work as a virgin, and it kinda works for shit if you've got hella control anyway. Most likely you're gonna use a condom, either because she wants one or you do or both. Get them for free. Waste one in private time sometime, get so you can unroll it well and be kinda smooth about opening the package, makes it a little less awkward and weird (I hate em, so every bit helps). If you're not hard after she comes, pull it out and ask her to get you hard. Enjoy! If it's so rad that you pop in her hand or in her mouth, don't worry, but do tell her you're coming (to be polite)! It's TOTALLY NORMAL. Don't act embarrassed, everything's cool, you haven't missed your chance. Grin and tell her 'now I can fuck you without coming too soon', and go back to happily naked foreplay until you're ready to go.

Now fuck her! Again, TALK TO HER about what she likes. Start out smooth and gentle, or let her be on top so she can control it, and grind into her with your hips more than jackhammer like in porn. You can get more vigorous over time, but slow and steady wins the race. If she wants it harder and rougher, go for it, but it's a mistake to assume porn-tastic sex is what they're after, unless they ask for it, talk about really getting fucked, etc. Build towards more vigorous fucking if you need that to come.

I'd also like to mention a few different things that will help you get laid: the things about you that will make a girl want to have sex with you. These are the hidden factors in how much she enjoys it, as well, even if it's a hookup. Put it all together, have enough points in enough categories and it translates to hella confidence. In no particular order:

Muscular body (you don't have to be big, but toned counts for a lot)
Big dick (hard to show off, but there are ways to do it)
Funny (sort of a case-by-case thing, but laughter is HUGE)
Handsome (if you're not at least HWP, you're probably not handsome, but maybe)
Tall (yeah, life is unfair. I thank god for this, or my fat ass would never get laid)
Smart (knowledge, wisdom, useful skills-- some girls LOVE this)
Creative (expert musical skill, either making or dancing or both are #1, then the others)
Sex Skills (yes, this ties into several other subjects, but it can be expressed on its own)
Money (yeah, it counts. Physical security means something, and career provides that)
Social Status (depends on some of these things, plus social skills, big friend group, etc)
and
Game. This is how you talk to women, how you make them feel by being around you, how you relate, how you build a connection, how you build attraction, how you lead the direction of the interaction towards the bedroom, how you qualify women to see if they meet your standards, how you turn a woman on by talking to them, how you make it fun and interesting to be around you. This relies on the other traits, but really good game will display the traits you have that are less obvious than Tall and Muscular, letting you make up for what you lack. It's not about manipulating women (don't do that); it's just a matter of presenting your best side and effectively communicating what it is you're after.

That said, you should try to enhance yourself however you can. Improve yourself, and your life will consistently be more enjoyable, and you will have more interesting people to spend your time with. I'm just sayin. Now, a warning regarding studying game: if you start to dig into the pick-up artist or seduction community, watch out. There's a lot of misogyny, a lot of hucksters, a lot of bullshit, and a lot of people you wouldn't really want to hang out with. Focus on the guys who are all about helping you become yourself more fully, not the ones with gimmicks and schemes. It's one thing to understand the basic mechanics of the process of attraction and seduction, it's another to manipulate people with cheap tricks to make them feel insecure or hack their brains with hypnotic suggestion. That is not the way to get the sort of beautiful people you want around you. Be a force for good, even if you get kinky sometimes.

Okay, this turned into more of a complete sex for guys primer than I intended, but hopefully there's something useful here for you.

 

troll would not be a surprise here. But there are different varieties of troll. I don't mind feeding a troll if it makes for an interesting thread. I don't think there is any need to worry about a troll, as long as their trolling doesn't cause problems or waste too much time.