If a guy invites me

Discussion in 'Relationships' started by cupy, Sep 13, 2010.

  1. The Beyonder

    The Beyonder Member

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    consciously or subconsciously yes we are hardwired by evolution to pursue sex, not because we're perverts or creepy or horndogs but simply because it's nature.

    Tell him you only want to be friends and see if he still wants to hang out. Some dudes can chill out and be cool after hearing that and he may be your friend down the road. If he can't then diss that fool.
     
  2. Devan Rojek

    Devan Rojek Senior Member

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    I agree with you completely. And no, I don't necessarily think you have a naive view on how the male mind works. You've just been fortunate enough to meet some of the decent ones in your life I suppose.

    @OP - Nope, it doesn't necessarily mean we just want to have sex. Like Meliai said, some guys might be like that but not all of us are. I personally would like to believe there are actually very few men who ONLY think about sex and ONLY wants that from all the girls they come across.

    Hmm, I guess I'm too much of a hopeless romantic when it comes to this kind of stuff, but I'm positive there ARE many of us who'd rather establish an emotional connection with girls before anything sexual takes place between us. However, I wouldn't be able to tell you whether or not this person you're talking about is one of such guys...
     
  3. I'minmyunderwear

    I'minmyunderwear Newbie

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    yes.

    wanna come to my house?
     
  4. Jo King

    Jo King wannabe

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    If a guy talks to you, he's thinking of having sex with you
    so yes
     
  5. I'minmyunderwear

    I'minmyunderwear Newbie

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    i also talk to female bartenders and cashiers.

    although to be fair, i am thinking about having sex with most of them.
     
  6. cupy

    cupy Member

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    I supposed to met him last week to talk and I told him I can't cuz I was sick . Unfortunately I never heard from him I don't know why ,but I'm not gonna call him .
     
  7. Logan 5

    Logan 5 Confessed gynephile Lifetime Supporter

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    Why think that at all? Some yes and some no.
    Me, if I invite you to my place it's be for maybe some tea and chat, or it could be that my dishes and laundry needs done (easy on the starch, please).... :D
     
  8. brack1936

    brack1936 Member Lifetime Supporter

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    I think I've only invited girls over with the aim to get them in to bed a couple of times and that was in 2002. They knew it too and yes, they came over. All other times I've invited them over to hang out and not get sexual (but leaving the possibility open - as any human would) but of course they have had it in their head that I only was interested in doing so. Now, the silly thing is that I'm dynamite in bed and none of my girlfriends have ever wanted to break up but I HAVE SO MUCH MORE TO DO WITH THEM. Far out - I mean, why woudn't I want to show them something more interesting than my dick?? I also firmly believe in keeping my hands off until the invitation comes.

    Excuse me ..... I'm getting a little worked up here .We're not all sexual deviants. Sometimes it works both ways or neither wants it.
     
  9. Logan 5

    Logan 5 Confessed gynephile Lifetime Supporter

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    You are.

    We aren't.

    :D
     
  10. guile99703

    guile99703 Member

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    unfortunately... yes...
    Here's the thing, a guy can find a woman physically attractive so he gives her attention... (wants sex)
    Or a guy can find a woman interesting, (unusual, or unique) so he gives her attention which leads to attraction.. (wanting sex)

    The most attractive woman (sexiest) are the ones who's initial appeal wasn't just physical..

    If you are not interested in a sexual relationship, just make it clear.. If the guy finds you interesting he will find a way to repress his sexuality (or otherwise deal with it) and be respectful of your wishes..
     
  11. Psych0naut

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    It could, but it could not.
     
  12. Logan 5

    Logan 5 Confessed gynephile Lifetime Supporter

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    Sometimes I like a woman enough that I just want to sit down and talk with her. Yeah, hard to beleive, isn't it? Sometimes that's all I want.
    (women get really weird about that for some reason)
     
  13. stinkfoot

    stinkfoot truth

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    Indeed -eh?
     
  14. cupy

    cupy Member

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    I never know what he wants. Cuz I never heard from him . He hasn't called me . Why he didn't call me back . Maybe he is wating for my call???
     
  15. Logan 5

    Logan 5 Confessed gynephile Lifetime Supporter

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    Wel, I suppose you oughta chalk it up to experience then. And put it behind you.
     
  16. 420Shell

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    Yes probably to get you in the sheets or I would take it that way.
     

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