What am I and who would I be best suited too?

Discussion in 'Coming Out and Confused!' started by Sadie1985, Sep 14, 2010.

  1. Sadie1985

    Sadie1985 Guest

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    Hi everyone,

    I'll start from the begging. I am a 24yo male and I have just finished from a very bad 3 year relationship with violance and I have a little girl from it too.

    I don't know whether it was just the girl I was with but I have no attraction towards women/girls anymore.

    What has taken my fancy is transexuals/ladyboys though and I can't explain it?

    Well maybe in away I can, whilst with my ex partner we thought it would be fun to dress me up as a girl one night in platform heels, mini-skirt and tights. I had no idea how much I would enjoy it or love it! Then it became very very addictive.

    Then came along anal and I love that too especially if there was illeagal substances involved.

    What am I going through? Has anyone been in the same position?

    The thought of having a ladyboy as a partner sounds good, or a transexual without the op. I like the thought of a real penis to suck and get penatration from but yet normal lads just don't do it for me.

    Does this mean I am gay, bi or straight?

    It's really starting to mess with my head hence why I have joined up for some help on the matter.

    Please feel free to ask me any personal questions and I will answer them honestly. Hopefully someone can help. :)


    Thank you
     
  2. meridianwest

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    it doesn't sound like you might be gay. gay guys like guys all the way, the way they look, behave, etc, not just the penis part of them. so if that's not you you're not gay. unless you're trying to suppress your attraction to guys on some level and as a result don't acknowledge that you like them.

    you say you have no attraction to women *anymore*. so previously you had that? it is possible that an abusive relationship has made you turn to alternative things that you're attracted to but didn't bother exploring before. i doubt it's something that'll turn a straight guy gay though. it might just be a temporary thing you not being attracted to women right now.

    liking cock but not guys (plus the dressing up in women's clothes part) can be some sort of a fetish. and honestly i'm the last person to talk to about that. i have zero fetishes. but i think this could qualify as that.

    PS: there are a lot of guys out there who are straight and still like to suck cock or get fucked, every once in a while or more often:)
     
  3. Sadie1985

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    Thanks for taking the time to read through my post. Thats a very good way of looking at my situation, maybe I just have that fetish and yes I used to have no problem getting with girls. I'll just have to see where it leads now, maybe it's just my ex that makes me think that all girls will treat me that way putting me off. She's definately messed my head up anyway and possibly just knocked my confidence.

    Hopefully I will meet the right person for me at somepoint.

    Thanks again.
     
  4. meridianwest

    meridianwest Senior Member

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    no problem.
    take care.
     
  5. KewlDewd66

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    I'd agree with you that you really are messed up. Just like MW, I also doubt that this experience turned you into a gay guy.

    More likely than not, you are experiencing "situational homosexuality" under your own circumstances. Your last experience has been rather devastating; your self-confidence has been shattered and you are now looking for a different outlet.

    Cool off for a while and regain some sense of self-confidence. Explore your sexulity under your own terms and only once you are ready to do so.

    KD
     
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    Impo find yourself a TS person is going to be more difficult, than Loading up a video of transsexuals..
     
  7. Sadie1985

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    Yeah i'll take that advice too thanks, i'll just take it easy for a while I think. :)
     
  8. Sadie1985

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    Yeah your not joking there lol :)
     

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