Hi all, This is a question motivated out of curiosity and I am not judging anyone either way. My question is what is the appeal is knowing/seeing your partner have intercourse with another person. Is it pleasing your partner, pleasing the other person, etc, etc?? I personally think that jealousy would rule my emotions in this situation and don't even find arousal in the fantasy of partner swapping, but I know that many people are turned on by the thought. Simply curious.
Oh god, it's just so hot. I really like connecting with my sweetie while she's being brought to orgasm. If it's me making her cum, that's great. When it's someone else, it's really hot because I'm taking in all her excitement and passion through my eyes, ears, nose, and more... I love watching her pussy be penetrated, watching her mouth penetrated, fucking her mouth while someone else is eating or fucking her pussy... it's just delicious.
I agree sort of. I've fantasized about seeing another man penetrate my wife's pussy but have only acted out the exposure part. my wife is open enough to allow me to undress her for other men - people we know as I get pleasure out of friends finally seeing what she looks like under her clothes, then masturbating if they like, or seeing her jack them off. something very erotic about your wife's pussy just out there for him to see.
All of the above, very well put. It is great to see her with a group of guys, seeing her fuck and suck, seeing being licked, her tits played with and sucked, seeing guys cum on her. Total full on fucking....mmmmmm far from objecting to a guy fucking my wife, I am happy for any number to do so.
I think it would depend on the relationship. if it was just sex then yeah. if I we're in love then no.
I had a hard time understanding this as well, and still don't understand it completely. When my husband first encouraged me to indulge my attraction to a man I had met a few weeks earlier, I thought he was joking. Needless to say, I laughed it off. Marriage might not have immunized me against being attracted to another man (even nice girls have fantasies) but I had absolutely no thoughts about acting on it. I loved my husband deeply and still do, and there were absolutely no problems with our sexual compatibility. Only when my husband began teasing me over the next several weeks about how good sex with this other man could be did I realize he was serious. They say even a single drop of water, given enough time, will wear down a boulder, and sure enough I began to get interested in it myself. That's when we began having some serious husband and wife discussions. Oh, My husband gave rational reasons for his magnanimity - me never having had another man but him, and him having enough confidence in his own masculinity and enough love for me to allow it - being chief among them, but I soon came to understand that, however rationalized, he would get vicarious pleasure from my extramarital activity as well. Just me admitting my interest excited my husband beyond belief. Well of course "it" happened (and continues on a somewhat irregular basis). My husband's encouragement and teasing may have gotten me interested in being with the other man, but ultimately it's what I wanted too, and its been really good. My husband seems to be motivated by a lot of the same things that motivate the men commenting above, but the difference is he doesn't want to watch. He says he couldn't stand to watch - which is fine with me because I wouldn't want him there when I am with this other man. That would be too distracting and, besides, to me sex is a very private, intimate and loving act between two people. Afterwards, however, my hubby gets so excited and aroused by the salacious details which I share with him over a day or two when I come back home, masturbating and fellating him while I do so. No, he doesn't have any interest in other women, and our married life goes on the same. Does anybody understand my husband? I wonder if he even understands himself.
