how did you really feel when you found out

i have always wanted children and have had baby fever since i was 20 however when ever i have one of those baby scares i really do get scared i wonder how everyelse will react if i am really ready for my life to change like and if i could really do it. i don't have any money i have specific ways that i would like for my children to be raised and i don't know if i will ever be in a position where i could provide for them like that. i'm sure that once it happens i will be fine but i do not want to be stressed throughout my pregnancy i want to really enjoy it and remember everything not work constantly to afford it. i already have high anxiety and do not react well to birth control gosh i really just rambled so sorry i guess i just wanted to know how you all felt really when you found out you were pregnant and how you did it (afforded it) thanks y'all

 

i reposted in parenting also i forgot about that one

 

I was escatic when I found out that I was pregnant the second time. The first time that I had gotten pregnant, it was completely unexpected, and my husband (we were not married yet) and I were beyond terrified. I ended up having problems early on and miscarried. Although I hadn't been prepared to have a child at that point, I went through a severe depression due to the loss. My husband and I became pregnant a year later, during one time of not using protection, and this time, although we hadn't actually planned it, we felt ready. When our oldest son was born 9 months later, we realized that having a child is completely miraculous, and no one can ever prepare you for the emotions you will feel, and the love that you will have.

With our third pregnancy, it was planned. We had decided that we were ready to expand on our little family when our oldest son was 3 years old, and boom, we became pregnant on the first shot, so-to-speak. Sadly, I miscarried very early into the pregnancy. I went through another bout of depression, and it brought up a lot of leftover emotional pain from the first pregnancy. I wasn't even sure if I wanted to try again, but after waiting the 3 months that my OB advised before trying to conceive again, I felt that I wanted to try. I had to have another baby! We didn't get pregnant the first month, but, we became pregnant the second month...and with TWINS.

When we found out that we were expecting twins, my husband was more calm about it than I was. I freaked out. Sure, I wanted to be pregnant, but I had never envisioned becoming pregnant with twins! I had a tough time accepting it in the early part of my pregnancy, because I was scared to death on how I would handle two infants at once, not to mention my older son, I was scared that I would get huge, and I just felt kind of alone because no one I knew had twins, and when most women become pregnant, it's with one baby at a time.

But, I quickly got over my emotions, and even though I was still terrified of caring for twins, I was absolutely thrilled to be having them. I felt special, I felt privledged.

When they were born, my God, I fell head over heels in love with them the moment I first set eyes on them. A beautiful little boy and a beautiful little girl. I knew that I could get through it, I knew that things would be okay. And they were. Sure, raising twins is hardly a piece of cake, but it is also the most rewarding experience I could ever imagine. Would I do it again? Without one doubt. If I could have more children, I'd love to have another set of twins.

Now here I am, my oldest son is 5 years old this week, and my other son and daughter are 19 months old. I fall more in love with my children everyday. I feel truly blessed to have them in my life.

Hugs...

 

BTW, I am a stay-at-home mama, and we do fine. My husband makes a modest salary, but we have done so much, even as a family of five. We have a budget, and we stick to it. I tend to be frugal, but it's helped us save money. We might not have everything, but we always have what we need. And the most important thing of all that you can give your children is your love.

Hugs...

 

Well with my first, I was not expecting her at all. I had only known my husband then fiance' for 5 mths. And I could not have found out at the worst time. We were going throw a rough patch, and I was even considering leaving him. At first I cryed, I was upset. Not cause I thought that I was to young or could not be a good mother. But because I was not sure this was the man I was going to spend the rest of my life with. And this is not something I have ever wanted, comming from parents who had been married for 23 years (and still married).


I was visting home, why he was still on the road (he was a truck diver back then) so I called and told him. He said that we would work things out. And sure enough we did. We got married 3 months later, in May. And I had my little girl, Liliana, on November 11th.

Now I am pregnant again. This time it was planned. Even though I got pregnant a lot sooner than I thought we would. This one is due on my step-daughters bithday, May 25.

I am a stay at home mom. Not something I plan on doing their entire lifes, but at least till they are in school. We don't have a whole lot of money. Don't live in that great of a house, or drive good looking cars, etc. But I am happy with my family. I would not change a thing...

 

First... There is NEVER a "right time" to have a baby... That is a myth... You will wait forever, if you wait for the right time.

Second... The money comes. If you are doing the right thing, The Universe will take care of you. It may not be easy; and you may have to sacrifice a lot and work really, really, hard, but you can do it.

My first baby was tried and tried for. It took us over a year, to get pregnant. We were ecstatic, of course. My second baby was a surprise. I wasn't too happy at first, my bf and I weren't married yet and we had only been living together for 9 months. But, we both already had another child from our previous relationships, so becoming parents wasn't a shock. Within a day or two, the apprehension gave way and happiness set in.