Through this past year, ive been losing my mind. i dont know if it is because im 18 now and i cant accept becoming an adult yet and the life ahead of me, or if it is issues from the past. i deffinitely have a hard time letting go of things, and i think it comes from not being able to forgive. i have been losing myself. but lately i have been meditating and it has really helped. but are there certain things i should be focusing on when i meditate? i usually try to clear my mind, and what always comes up is the girl i was in love with from when i was 15-17. i need to get myself back on track. i dont really enjoy life anymore as i used too. i deffinitely think that hunting season coming up will help me though. when i sit in the woods for 5 or 6 hours alone it really lets me think about a lot of things and kind of explore myself, while being with the spirit of nature. if anyone could help me or has gone through something like this, then i would appreciate your help. ive heard of people going through mid life crisis's? however you spell that. but i dont think it would be at 18 years of age. that is what it feels like though. im not progressing in life anymore im trapped in a loop is what it feels like. sorry this was so long. i doubt anyone will read it lol. thanks anyways though, felt kinda good getting it out.
Eighteen is a time of great change. Ahhh eighteen! So long ago,....but I digress...First loves are often bittersweet, it's natural to think of one you love, no matter how old you are or how much time has pasted. When sitting in the woods, watch your breath, watch the woods, watch the clouds, watch your thoughts go by...just be here now. Your mind should grow calmer in time. Mid life crisis is different, it's when you realize you are reaching the end of the road, time is no longer on your side and you try to regain your youth by grasping at various things. You have time on your side.
I don't know if this can help or not. A technique suggestion. First, you know you are clinging to a memory. We can not change the past. I am just as likely to alter the way the pyramids were built as I am to change what I had for dinner yesterday. We have now. "Now", I can enjoy my memories, but clinging causes suffering (of course). The technique. If in meditation this past (and present) love comes up, use it. Do not despair that it is gone, know that you can feel this way. It is available to you. You felt it for one, you can feel it for another, maybe you can allow some compassion for all. Embrace the memory and allow the feeling to expand beyond that relationship. Do not box it up, open the box. Sounds odd outside of meditation. Any help? I don't know if it would have helped me when I was suffering through lost love, you will certainly be on a roller coaster of emotion for awhile, but it is something to try and you were very fortunate to have had a strong emotional bond with someone. Others may never have what you had. Rejoice.
Hang in there man.. I know it might sound corny but its my experience that things always work out for the best.. Life it a trial (to prove who you are) full of uncertainty and new challenges along the way, so its easy to feel overwhelmed at times. But look beck at the successes and accomplishments that have gotten you here. Some of them might seem simple, trivial, or insignificant now that you have overcome them but that's only testament to how much you have evolved as a product of them.. Even the hardships help us build strength and character.. The future will fallow this trend, have faith in it.. Effort and a positive outlook are the real secrets to happiness and success.. One day you will find yourself in a good place, you will look back and realize the path you took there was the best one for who you have become..
I went through this when i was 19, I think its fairly common for this age. nearly all my friends went through the same thing. i would recommend finding absolutely anything to meditate on and clear your mind; meditating isnt something that has to be done sitting or lying in a standard meditating position. I understand sitting in the woods perfectly well..i'm not a hunter but being in nature certainly puts me in the moment. That is all meditation is; finding something that keeps you in the here and now. If you are only focused on the present then you cant feel anxiety and depression about the past or future. Also live your life deliberately. If you know an action is going to make you feel bad, don't do it. if you know something will enhance your life, go for it. This helps to dispel all negative energy in your life while bringing in positive changes.
