I'm 36, and been married for quite some time (13 years). My wife and I have a great sex life, but she knows I masturbate and have porn (on occasion we watch together). We like to have mutual masturbation sessions, and I also love to jerk off for her to watch sometimes. So, this morning I was in the bathroom to take a shower, had a magazine out and was completely hard going at it when she walked in -- totally surprised her (and me, of course). Although she knows I masturbate (she of course knows I have porn), and I know she masturbates (she has a few vibrators) it was still quite embarassing. Maybe just the surprise . . . I'm sure we will laugh about it later
You have been married for 13 years and never had your wife see you jack off? Try sitting on her chest and doing it next time. I went out with a school teacher years ago and when I did that and blew in her face she would cum with no other stimulation. Splat! - "Ooooooh!" Like that. You should try it. Worst case is she will leave you.
If she knows you masturbate, and that you use porn, and if she masturbates herself, and if you've masturbated together -- if that's what you mean by mutual masturbation -- then I don't understand what the problem is. Just the element of surprise? Or were you looking at something you didn't want her to see you looking at?
My wife and I have an "open masturbation" policy in our house. This means we can each masturbate any time we wish, with no guilt or recriminations. As a result we have often "caught" each other. Sometimes we just smile and tell the other person to have fun, other times we stay and watch, but don't do anything else, and other times we join in. It's wonderful to have that built in permission, to know we can enjoy ourselves without worry. You ought to have a similar talk with your wife. You both already do it, know the other person is doing it, so you are only a discussion away from what my wife and I do. Wouldn't it be great for you to know if you're wanking and your wife walks in, you can just say "hi dear" and keep going?
LOL the worst case is she will leave him? Maybe he doesnt want that tho haha. My partner is a teacher and i have sat on her chest and wanked, but i just cum on her tits, not her face.
Sounds like a cheerful, blissful relationship. What, prey tell, is there to be embarrassed about if she strolls in and sees you joysticking? Big deal. Give her a naked cuddle and next time, a wild and unblemished show of sexuality and pleasure!