Im 21 yr old fem dating nearly 27 yr old butch, only early days but dnt realy notice the age difference, think age diffs with lesbian are less noticible, especially cause women are more mature generally. Dont think id find someone much older hot tho.
I feel like age difference matters most in the more youthful eras of life =) My girlfriend is a year younger than me (I'm 18 and she's 16, my birthday comes first so it looks like 2 years) and my family notices the difference more than I do, though it is apparent when we disagree that I'm slightly ahead maturity-wise. I'm also a freshman in college while she's a senior in high school so that's stressful. I feel like if she were even another year younger (my brother is a year younger than her so I have some frame of reference) it would make a huge difference, but were she two years older than me it wouldn't. I guess its very subjective, and it all comes down to maturity and aspirations. We want the same things and are willing to work together to achieve them.