Gender transition

I guess we will have to wait and see how this all plays out.

The kids may need some counseling, but lots of kids have gone through strange things and come out ok. At least she isn't dying, right?

 

a snip and a tuck and bobs yer auntie :mickey:

 

Very true

Luckily my boyfriend has calmed the rest of the family down so they aren't freaking out quite as badly.

 

I think the children might be fine if they are let in on her decision and motives. Why wouldn't they?

Personally, I feel like a cat in a skunk's body. If a very seductive one...

 

Anyone study the suicide rate of children of transgenders?

 

I doubt it's any higher than normal.

 

This is really interesting. Does anyone know how long she has felt like a he? It seems like something that would take some time to accept and toss around in your own mind before you told anyone else. I've known plenty of gay people, even lesbians who were awfully on the boyish side, but never have known anyone who felt they were born as the wrong gender. I find it absolutely fascinating, though, I'm really interested in the psychology behind unconventional life callings. I wish her (him) all the luck in the world with this transition and hopefully the kids will be just fine.

 

Apparently she has felt this way since she was a kid... which makes her decision to give birth seem weird. If I felt like I should have been born a boy, I doubt getting pregnant would be on my agenda.

All of the kids have severe food allergies and are all on liquid diets among other health problems so they already have a pretty difficult life. And the lastest is that one of the girls cut herself... so to me this does NOT sound like the kids are all just magically ok with everything. If kids just accepted everything and weren't bothered by this sort of thing, I doubt that there would be so many support groups for children of transgender people.

 

Kids would be worse off with a depressed mum resentful she's in the wrong body

 

What is the general age range of these kids, antithesis? If they've already got so many issues, then I think family counseling to help them through this is almost definitely a must.

 

Completely selfish to do this after having 5 kids. To think other wise is simply not thinking.

 

This post is not thinking

There's tons of support groups for everything, from living with a spouse that has diabetes to having gay parents. There really aren't many support groups for children of transgender people, most children's groups are for children themselves who feel transgender. But again children are blank slates, you can't hate something you haven't been taught to hate. I've never seen a child have a bad reaction to someone being trans, gay, ect. Especially since kids have no real concept of gender and sexuality beyond boys have short hair and girls have long hair. Mommy is still mommy, she just now has short hair and wears ties.

As for getting pregnant, if you're trying to deny you feel like a boy and trying to prove to yourself your femininity, few things more feminine than being a mother.

Or she could've just really wanted kids.

 

So how does that explain the cutting?

And if she was having children to prove her femininity than that is the most selfish thing I have ever heard. Personally I think she is just a very confused person. She was a lesbian for several years and everyone was ok with that and no one in the family hates her or anything, people are just a little confused and concerned which I think is totally normal. Lots of parents would be acting much much worse.

 

The oldest is 10 or 11

 

Well the cutting is a serious problem but I doubt it's related to the mothers gender considering the child is already doing it. Most cutters I've ever known came from perfectly fine homes who just had their own issues that had to dealt with.

 

This kind of thinking stops somewhere around age 6, or earlier. There's no way little Johnny in the third grade thinks the only difference between Susie and Tommy in his class are the lengths of their hair. Even if not in terms of sexuality, even the youngest of lads and lasses knows that there is a world of difference between a male and a female.

 

Yes but children normally don't see enough difference to the point they're offended and/or disgusted by the fact someone would change their gender, unlike 1/2 the adult population. Even teenagers are better at it and teenagers are the most god awful creates on Earth.

 

I think a lot of children would be, not all....but a good amount. All kids are different

 

I can only speak for myself, but when I was that age I would surely be freaked out if my mom told me she was becoming a man. I think most kids would be and you just saying kids are completely ok and not bothered by it at all does nothing to convince me. I don't know if you are speaking from personal experience or not.

I guess you just don't want to address the fact that these kids are not dealing with it well at the moment. And this is pretty liberal open-minded family and no one is telling these kids anything bad about their mom to cause them to stress out like they are. LIke I said, the adults are coming to terms with it, it was just kind of a shock that no one was expecting, but everyone still loves her and has told her that.

I certainly wish that I was witnessing what you are so positive all children will feel, but sadly I am not.

 

That doesn't mean that they can't be horribly confused by it, or harassed by other children because of it.