My wife confuses me. She acts like she hates anal, but the rare times she lets me do it, she cums fast and obviously enjoys it...... So the next time we fuck, I try to PIITB and she gets all pist off and shit... WTF do I do? Oh she also thinks Im gay because all I want is ass, but the fact is, I want girl butthole.:afro:
She isn't drunk enough. Guilt will make a woman act like that. She probably thinks that only gays do it, or her mother told her it was disgusting, or her a$$hole will end up the size of a hula-hoop or something. You may need to educate her. You know, get her drunk and show her some Europorn with some 18yo Czech chick getting triple teamed by three French body builders. Or you could just act really sullen and not talk to her for weeks until she gives in. Or make up a story about an old G/F. The usual, you're married, you know how it works.
Maybe she enjoys anal physically, but does not like it mentally. She might think it's ewwy, she might think it's homosexual. My advice is to try really hard to make those few times she allows you to do anal, really really special - and get her to come begging for it. Other than that - a woman's mind is damn sure not an easy thing to change.
Talk to her, shes your wife. At RARE times, she lets you do it. So take that time, and enjoy it. Maybe its not a everyday or mostly thing for her. Every female is different. No shit she gets pissed off cause you probably dont ask for anal but try to ram in, and If you tried that, Im suprised she didnt try to slap you. This is why you need to communicate.
I love the implication if she doesn't want something in her ass, she must be homophobic. There are gay men who don't enjoy anal intercourse; they're not all self-loathing either. Even though you think she enjoys it, what matters most is her opinion. Respect that she's willing to do it even though she doesn't like it. Marriage is not about always getting what you want. It's about compromise. She's trying to shame you out of doing it; I doubt she actually thinks you're gay. She sounds like an okay wife overall. Give her the same respect she gives you.
Its not like shes getting pist that "I try to ram it in" because I know better than that....she sometimes gets pist if I even hint of the subject or even start feeling over there. I just dont get it... Why enjoy is so much then act like you dont...
I had a long term g/f who was totally anti anal sex until I moved out and found a new g/f. Then suddenly she was desperate for any sort if sex I wanted, wanted to kiss me goodbye, wanted to do my washing, not just hers, make me dinner, you name it. Anything I wanted I could now have after ten years of misery, and begging. It is your life, lad. Decide for yourself if it is a deal-breaker or not, and if it is...
I think your wife is afraid that if you fuck her in the ass that either your trying to dominate her or maybe shes worried your doing it because you want to imagine your fucking a guy. Either way if shes not in the mood for that sort of thing then you should respect her wishes. Focus on pleasuring other parts of her body for a while then maybe slowly work your way towards her ass. Drag foreplay out till she gets so horny she'll be up for anything.
Maybe she is just selfish and couldn't give a damn what you want. There are no shortage of people like that.
Thanks for the thoughts so far. Right now, we're expecting a boy in about 2 months, and have been married going on 5 years this next Feb.
