This is my situation. ok so here is my problem. My girlfriend says she tells me things that she does not. I think she actually thinks things in her head and then she thinks she told me what ever it was. but she does not. granted there have been times i wasnt listening when she was talking or i just didnt hear her say something. now it is happening all the time that she thinks she tells me something but actually doesnt and she is getting mad at me over this and says i dont listen to her. This is starting to get annoying to me. also she hasnt had her period in a long time and just started getting it again and it seems like sbefore she gets it she get real mean to me. tells me things like she doesnt love me anymore and she cant do it. so i tell her fine but i love her to death and it hurts me deeply when she says this stuff and it has happend for like the last three months before she gets her thing. so i tell her we will end it and she wont leave i tell her if she really just wants to be friends with me now and down grade our relationship i cant be around her anymore and she says ok. but she wont leave and still comes to me everyday and when she is not with me she is at her folks or working. its like a repeat cycle and the last time i told her look i cant do this you are fucking with my heart and you keep breaking it again and again so if you ever want a chance of us being friends then stay away from me for a while and let me get over you. she wont do it though she always comes back. our sex life has been curbed the last few months and has been pretty much nothing and i have have been on alot of opiates so it really hasnt botherd me. Well the main reason for this post though was the fact she constantly says she tells me things when she doesnt and i never listen to her. and she is so wrong and there is no way to prove it. i dont want to go buy a recorder and record everything she says. but even in phone conversations she says she just said something and sh didnt. and i know im not wrong here.
It sounds like you will either have to deal with it or break it off. You say she won't leave. Do you live together? You may have to be the one to leave. And it may take awhile, but she'll eventually stop coming around if you are firm with your decision and don't toy with her. There really isn't much you can do to convince her that she really didn't say what she says she did. Don't settle for someone who treats you like that.
since its been going on a while, i wouldn't normally suggest this... give it right back to her. Do the same thing to her. see if you can't get to the bottom of it. In our relationship, which i consider normal... we tell each other shit all the time the other doesn't remember. It's not that we dont care... it just goes in one ear and out the other. Now, I understand your issue is slightly different...thats why I'd give it back to her and see how she reacts... but I do recall often saying, "Why didn't you tell me that" the trick is to be quick enough to slide in "oh thats right and try to play it like you know.
Happens to me too. As you say, there is no proof she didn't say it but it is soooo hurtful and frustrating. She misses some stuff I tell her so I just repeat it - no big deal. It would be so simple just to repeat. What's tbfd?? Women are so far out there. It would be so much easier to be gay I think.
we kind of live together she stays with me almost every night. I stay 1 place have the week and another place the other half of the week and she comes to both places with me most of the time. I would do anything in the world for this girl I'll even bring her breakfast in bed sometimes, I can honestly say I care about her more than I've ever cared about any of the girl in my life. she is a huge part of my life and I don't really think I would want to be here without her. this situation though is causing her to being a huge bitch. she has always been a very nice person and I've never really known her to be a super bitch she says I have been bringing it out in her but I don't understand because I treat her like gold and all I do is great things for her everything she needs is taken care of. this situation has been hurting me and making me very unhappy thinking of being without her just a book thinking about being without her just the thought makes me more unhappy maybe I do have to deal with it suck it up because maybe she does not really love me anymore I think sometimes when you are too nice to people you ruin things. it's ridiculous though no matter how miserable she makes me makes me I still love her to death. I know she gains more from being with me than I gain from being with her and if we were this part ways it would hurt her a lot more than It would hurt me. it would probably hurt me more emotionally, we have been together for over 2 years now and I don't know how she could just stop loving me. this really sucks!
Then it sounds like you'll have to just deal with it. This isn't something you can change. Ask yourself if you really love her, or if you're just used to her, and comfortable with her...what do you get out of this relationship?
Honestly I don't think I have ever got so little out of a relationship before. It was so much better in the beginning with the way she treated me. One thing is I don't have anyone to really talk about this to because she is one of my friends X and it has just been pretty much her and I the last couple years n only a hand ful of times she has Hung out wiwith anyone but me. So I don't really have n e one to talk with except strangers on the net like you all.
it sounds like she has PMD instead of PMS and may need help and meds to get her hormones balances. it dosnt sound like she stopped loving you. it sounds like she is dealing with issues thats she is either unaware of or dosent talk about rather its hormonal or something in her head thats bothering her deeply, if its not PMD maybe something happend you dont know about, or something in her past is bugging here. if the was she is acting is out of caricature or a sodden change you should do more research to make sure its not a deeper problem before you consider breaking up. it my be just bitchiness but if its deeper she may really need you now.
i do see in the way she acts that she still cares but then its like she doesnt. i have put so much patience into evverything that has been going on. deep inside i feel we both need each other and she was getting afraid and maybe realized all the stuff i do for her and how many problems she would have had and have now if i wasnt there for her and it just being her and i evryday for a couple of years probally isnt healthy because maybe she feels trapped with me, which i wouldnt like to think becuse i am content with just her. if she does have issuse like that pmd thing(which im gonna look up) maybe its not me and that would be nice. ill support her in anyway i can and always be there for her. i have already been waiting it out hoping it was gonna pass. the last thing i want to do is give up and let her go i know i would be miserable without her cuz im miserable now and i kinda still have her. sometimes i feel like things are going back to normal but then she acts cold or something. i dont want anyone else in my life it took me a long time to let her in with trust and commitment to her
