Your thoughts on this behaviour! ASSumption

So, question. When you first had your dreads did you get alot of unwanted advice. Here's how it's going right now my hair doesn't look very dready. It just looks very messy. And when people are notified that i'm trying to dread my hair and they once had dreads or think they know what they're talking about they like to share input. So I get alot of "use wax". Like for example my art teacher today. I told her I didn't like the idea of someone profiting off of something that is supposed to be a natural process. And she made a face like "good point" but she said when she had hers she had it done by a loctician and used "bees wax" or something in her hair so she could have real "bob marley" looking locks.

This isn't the only case. When people find out im doing this they will youtube different types of ways to dreadlock hair. So someone messages me with a youtube video of a gorgeous black man who had dreadlocked his hair using the neglect method. My friend sais "this would be the best method for you, do what he did" knowing that I was backcombing. My hair isn't the same! It is naturally quite straight/wavy. I realise that the neglect method can be used by anyone it's just a matter of time. Im just trying to make a point that everyone is offering there opinions.

Like when I went to see family for thanksgiving, well day after. They saw my hair and were surprised. I mentioned that it looks this way because its the very beginning of a dreadlock process. It takes time. Then someone asked do you wash it? And before I could answer yes someone intervened and said NO
...until I informed them that yes infact you do have to wash your hair especially during the beginning because oily hair doesn't lock.

I like the idea people are trying to help but all of this advice is kind of discouraging when everyone is telling me I should be putting wax in my hair. Or "work on them"... ????
There's not really much I caaaaan do right.. it just takes time. I realise with wax they will look less messy and more dready but patience is also a virtue and I don't mind waiting until they get that way.

Theres this beautiful girlin my art class who said she remembers when her hair was like mine it was shorter even and it stuck out all over the place. And when she sees my hair she smiles. Because well it's fucking hilarious!. And anyways her hair is down her back in beautiful dark brown locks. About 6 years old.

So I know the way i'm doing it is right. Also I've noticed already that the dreads I havent been paying attention to in the back are getting more knotty and rough feeling. So I know its working it's just going fricken sloooowwww. Which is fineeeeee... Just why does everyone volunteer all this dumb information that isn't even accruate.

 

tl;dr

 

didn't read the whole thing, but I've had family members buy me wax and tell me their beauty school friend's say do this and that, I just tell them I like my hair the way it is and thats that.

 

geez what is it about this forum that attracts all the whiners

 

Ya that's what I say too.. I've just been getting it often!

 

Stupid people are stupid. It has nothing to do with dreadlocks.

 

:2thumbsup:

 

If someone offering advice has or had dreads that you like the look of and would like to achieve something similar, then the advice may be valuable, if it's someone (for example, everyone in my office) telling you "You just don't wash it right?" then set them straight!

 

Maybe offer advice back about their hair...?

 

This.

 

tell them to fuck off,

at least you haven't got the, "your dreads are falling out" yet, that one pisses me off.

You have a choice, ignore them, or explain over and over and over and over and over and over and over again how dreads, in particularly your dreads work

 

yes but this takes so much energy lol cant I just wear a sign that explains it

 

i suppose you could get a t-shirt printed out

 

thanks for your feedback i'm glad i'm not the only one who finds all this annoying.

 

The way i see it is, some people are just ignorant, they can't help but be uneducated and stupid about the whole thing. So i just be nice, even though i'm fighting the urge to tell them they have no fuckin' idea what they're talking about.

Once someone i was working with told me that dust helps the locking process, and that i should work in a dust field.. But lets ask the question everyones been thinking..

What the fuck is a dust field?

 

It All Just Comes Down To Natural Human Behaviour...

When I Was Pregnant With My First Child, Everybody Had Advice For Me

And After The Birth It Just Got Worse....

I Turned A Deaf Ear To All Of Them, And Looked After The Baby "My Way".

I Now Have A Well Adjusted Kid That I Am Proud Of...



Cheers Glen.

 

Glen..? ... Short for Glennis?

 

LMFAO!!! :sunny:

 

I get that one all the time, I just laugh and explain the process, and then they laugh at me and say I won't ever have locks if I don't put eggs (that's right eggs! ) on them.