Ok, hear me out here people. I'm a male in my 20s and I've never actually masturbated, it's just somethin I've never had the urge to do I guess. I've tried a few times but nothing really... happened? Sounds stupid as it's not something you can really do wrong from what little I know, but the few occasions I have tried I was like 19/20 and I just spent 5 mins basically making my wrist ache with no real results. Am I just a freak or does anyone know why I don't really have the need to? I'd like to be able to to see why everyone else does it, and some stress relief. thx
Do you have sex? Sex > Masturbation. That's all that really matters. People masturbate because they get horny and they are bored, pretty simple. If you have no sex drive period that would be more of a concern than never masturbating. But ya, you are definitely an anomaly, I can't imagine there are many people in their 20s that have never masturbated.
If you do not experience sexual attraction or desires, you might want to check out the following website: www.asexuality.org
If by aroused you mean get erections then yeah, used to be a real problem when I was younger and I saw any girl with cleavage (even as old as 19). I still get them fairly regularly. I sometimes look at hot girls online, like just photos but I've never watched any porn videos or anything, that itself doesn't appeal to me. People have suggested this to me before but I don't think it's the case as I'm certainly attracted to women.
masturbating is work, it's about exploration, sometimes it is exhausting and uncomfortable. but, do it!
I forced myself to masterbate the first couple times, because I thought everyone else my age had already done it. But then I couldn't stop!
All I have to say is don't start. I think it is very corrupting of the mind to masturbate. I was just like you for a long time. I did not understand why guys masturbated. I tried it a couple of times and yeah nothing happened as in I could not ejaculate and it did not feel that good. well eventually one day I was super horny because I was bad and looked at some porno and I found out a secret. I should not tell you this because I hope you don't start but I am anyway and hope you have self-control. so I found wrapping a soft silk sheet or bed sheets around your dick and rubbing it back and worth feels really good while being aroused looking at a picture of a nude girl. I then found out that right before you ejaculate you feel super good and at this point it is super hard to stop the motion and then boom you ejaculate and it feels good and then there you go that's masturbation. after finding this out sometimes I would get a strong urge to masturbate once horny. eventually I found out that if I masturbate a day before I do something like play a sport or do intense exercise that I do not have as much energy the next day. so now I understand why they tell professional boxers not to have sex the night before the fight. anyway really to enjoy masturbating you gotta have your first ejaculation. then after that it becomes enjoyable. the first time is not that great. anyhow I no longer masturbate. I have not masturbated in a really long time. I also do not look at porno at all because if I do it really makes me wanna masturbate. I have also found now that I quit masturbating I get wet dreams sometimes. It's a dream which you have sex in your dream and then you wake up ejaculating. anyhow don't start it's not like your missing out on anything super great. Just be patient and wait till you get a girl friend and if you wait for your first ejaculation to be with a woman. That would make it more special. I think masturbation is a pretty dirty activity and I am glad I quit and wish I would have never started in the first place.
Are you looking for a wife/girlfriend to be with? You should at least know your body a little bit if you do. Unless you prefare to be independent, in that case don't worry about it.
i dont think masturbating is a dirty activity at all; the feeling of an orgasm is the greatest feeling known to (wo)man. this might sound really weird but I feel like i'm talking to god (in the loosest sense of the word god) when i have an orgasm. its a beautiful thang... to the OP..interesting. so you've never actually ejaculated? you should try it again sometime; you just didn't get to the point where it starts to feel good. once you reach that point you won't be able to stop. from what i understand, most guys need visual stimulation. If you don't like porn, try looking at some artistic nudes while masturbating to keep you erect. If you aren't asexual and feel attraction towards women then you should definitely embrace your sexuality.
Unusual, but not unknown. I once had a friend in his 30s who, admitted to me that despite being married with a baby daughter he had never masturbated. I neded up giving him instruction - something he initially had problems with, as he was circumcised. However, once we went into the shower & he got lubed up with soap, he was well away with his new found talent. Sometimes, although you may know about the existence of masturbation, and even the stereotype methods of how to do it, sometimes one still needs some one on one instruction.
Maybe you just haven't found out what gets you off. I'm sure their is a wonderfully bizarre fetish out there just waiting for you.