Hi guys, Well I'll get straight to the point. I've been fantasising about getting sexually involved with one of my best friends but I'm scared of getting knocked back because I'm not sure if he's bi or not. He has no problem being naked around me and is always touchy feely with me. About 6 months ago he stayed at my house as he does often. He gad to go to work early the next day, but after hearing his alarm go off several times and hearing no movement, I decided to go and shake him. When I went into the room he was fully naked and had the biggest hard on I have ever seen, I mean it must have been nearly a foot long! I stood there admiring it for a few minutes and then shook him. As he came to, he realised he was hard and just covered himself over. I told him I didn't realise they came that big and he just laughed and smiled. We've acted as though nothing happened since then but I have eyed him catching a sneaky glance at my crotch from time to time. Are there signs there or am I just being really stupid? I'd appreciate any advice? Thank you
Just start casually being naked in front of him like it,s no big deal and see if he shows more interest.
Just go for it. May just be my life spilling over, but we've all got to stop beating around the bush and just freaking live life already! Damn, you frickin talked about his cock already! And if he's touching you, he wants to touch you! He sounds bi-curious at the least, so make it easy for him and make the first move! I wish someone would have done that for me, but no, they're ALWAYS too chicken. JUST DO IT!
Your friend may very well be bi, gay or str8 or somewhere on the spectrum. This is really for him to decide. The matter should be really of little interest to you. Your real issue here is: Is this dude interested in messing around with me? Does he find me attractive, desirable, etc? For all we know, he may or may not be bi or gay or whoever else. That does NOT automatically mean that he IS interested in having sex with you. I know a number of very openly gay guys I am definitely NOT interested in. Gay as they are. And Gay as I am. Frankly, the fact that I know that they are gay and that they, in turn, know that I am gay is of hardly any importance here. By that very same token, I have had some very memorable sex with men whose pattern of sexual behavior was very obviously straight. Yet, we clicked... and the fun was had by all. If you feel that the vibe is there, give it a gentle try. Do NOT start with the question: Dude, are you BI? Have fun but stay short of commenting on it in terms of suggesting that your friend is anyone else but your friend. His sexual orientation is his business and debating it is exlusively his prerogative, not yours. KD
I'd suggest returning the favor and being nude whenever possible and see what his response is. He might just be really open about his body, some guys feel less embarassment when it comes to these things. I'd also suggest instigating a sexual encounter that you can easily back out of if you need to. The next time he's over suggest watching a movie and have porn where he can find it. Ask him to pick a film and make sure your porn stash is there. Chances are he'll pick that. Or leave it on the floor or in the player, somewhere he can find it. I can almost guarantee that you'll be enjoying a mutual masturbation session within half an hour. He clearly doesn't have a problem with you seeing his dick, and hard too. So why not explore this and see how far it could go? Plenty of mates enjoy these things together, and they often don't ever identify as bisexual. So, to recap, I'd avoid all discussion about sexuality, that scares most guys. Just create an opportunity to enjoy the most mild sexual act together (mutual masturbation) and see how it goes from there.
Try a lot of alcohol and a little bi porn and see what comes up . Just tell him that you think about doing that sometimes and watch his reply . If he ignores the statement , let it go . If he's into it , I think at that point , it would come out .
