one weekend i made the mistake of taking this girl to vegas during cinco de mayo getting plasterd and woke up married with a video of the whole cerimony which had me swaying back and forth with a bottleof champagne in my hands saying sure "i do". it was actually kinda funny. but anyways separated a week later then random hookup with her few months later leading to baby boy. going through custody i wanted equal everything and of course she wanted me to have every other weekend. I wanted him atleast half the time for the first 5 years anyways as he was developing so he knew me as dad and not one of her boy friends. i was able to get joint everything so he lives with me thursday thru mon and her the other days. so she wasnt working when hes was born so the nice guy i am i offer to pay support to make sure he has what he needs even though i acually have him more hours than she does during the week. so now 8 years later she still is not working and i am still paying the support. She has an aunt who works at welfare and new all the tricks so she started collecting, probally getting more than i make a week. about four years ago i tried to get the support removed because its very unfair of me to have to pay her cuz i have him so much and he costs alot of money and i could use the money im paying her to help me in my life. so i went in front of judge and he was going to remove it then this little short bitch from the DOR came in and because she started collecting someone needs to pay them back and that someone is me. Its such BS because she doesnt want to work i have to pay. ive already paid over 60k that could have help me buy a house a house for me and him or something.
You know... if you hadn't included the lead up, I'd have some sympathy for you... it really does sound like a shitty deal... But seriously man... you got married in vegas on a drunk, got seperated and then knocked her up months later? lmao...
yeah not the smartest move i have ever made im just pissed i still have to pay. if he was with me 2 weekends a month i would be fine paying support. i have always paid never been late. i would alway make sure my boy is taken care of
Well, then think of it this way... one way your boy needs to be taken care of, is to not be stressed out over his parents poor choices... Suck it up man... Smile at her, thank her when she does something nice, ignore the bullshit... Your boy doesn't need the bullshit... oh, and more importantly... don't get any more one night stands (ex wives included) pregnant...
child support isn't paying your part of the time, but your part of the entire estimated cost of support (food, clothes, school expenses, health care, recreation, daycare, etc etc), which is usually worked out by a formula.
yeah thats shitty....I don't really understand why fathers are still expected to pay child support if its joint custody. thats the system for you.
^^ because men typically earn more because women lose work hours to being home, either as full timke caretakers, or simply post delivery-- not to mention that women having children younger usually equates to less education and earning power. again, support is decided on the full view of expenses, not who is spending more time with the kid.