I was told today..

..that the reason i'm not making it through high school and the reason i have no friends in high school is because being mature and having confidence aren't important in high school and it's not the way to make it through high school. are the people i go to school with really that ridiculous... ? like for real, they told me the reason everybody hates me is because i'm mature and confident... I DON'T UNDERSTAND. how is that not the way to make it through high school?

seriously, is this just ridiculous, or has it been like this and i just never got the memo?

 

Don't worry... life gets much better and so do the people post-high school.

 

that's what i'm counting on. i'm just being patient and waiting for high school to be over with.

 

I dunno, I knew plenty of great people in high school.
Fun times honestly.

 

i have no friends.. it's really, really sad. and it's not like i'm a horrible person, i'm soo nice. i just don't talk much, and when i do people don't like it, because i live in a small town where everyone shares the same beliefs. except me. which is extremely inconvenient. i swear they're convinced i'm like the anti-christ or something.

 

Who gave you this gem of wisdom?

 

Yeah I know what you mean about the small-town mentality. I moved to the rural Midwest a few years ago after being born and raised in a large East-coast city and still haven't formed any lasting friendships.

High school is a fun time for some, and a terrible time for others.
Sounds like aren't part of the former group.
Good news is people like you generally bloom and really find yourself after high school is over. I'm sure things will get better.

 

some girl in one of my classes. guys don't normally pay much attention to me (unless it's cat calls or "hey can i get your number?" ), but girls seem to tear me apart whenever they have a chance. my sociology class is ridiculous because whenever i'm asked to voice my opinion, it gets torn apart and it ends up turning into how it doesn't matter what my opinion is because i sit alone at lunch and don't talk to people in the hallways lol. it's all so childish, it's just really hard to understand sometimes.

i guess i'm just not into the whole socializing-in-order-to-obtain-a-higher-social-status type of thing. i'm perfectly alright with how i live though, i'm just waiting to be done with the ridicule.

 

Then perhaps the girl who said it is simply envious of you.

That this is allowed in a class (sociology) should be taken up with the principal of your school.

Best revenge is to stay "smart" and that lasts.

Seriously do not take what is said by others to heart, instead pick up your own drum, find your beat and go for it.

 

lol...never listen to highschool kids they don't know shit about real life

 

yeah, none of what they say really gets to me, because i like who i am and i know that they just don't like that i'm different than them. which is fine, and i dont even blame them, it's the environment they grew up in. they all just think i'm weird.. but i just can't find it in me to care that much.

and sometimes i do think it's partially to do with jealousy, but also i think it's because i havent really made any emotional connections with anyone so they think i'm kind of.. mysterious? like, they dont know me, and that scares them. something like that, but i have no idea.

and yeah, my mom saw some texts i had gotten from a couple girls and even listened to a voicemail they left me and ended up calling the school, but nothing was really done about it other than a meeting in the office and the principal saying "that's not nice" haha. i sometimes feel like it affects my mom more than it does me, because she's constantly saying that i need to find some companionship.

it just doesn't worry me, because i'm just waiting until i find myself and grow more to find friends and loved ones. i just can't wait for high school to be over

 

Teenagers are notorious for having a herd mentality. The fact that you're confident in your own beliefs and not afraid to go against the norm probably makes other girls insecure. Dont worry, once you graduate you'll have the freedom to leave the small town mentality behind and find people that aren't afraid of smart and free-thinking ladies. It will get better...for people who have a rough time in high school, life generally goes uphill after high school and for now you can console yourself with the thought that those who enjoy high school sometimes find themselves lost after high school. The popular girls that make fun of you now will probably be knocked up and stuck in the same small town 5 years from now while you're out being the independent free thinker that you already are.

 

The best thing you can do is not base your happiness on other people.

What do you like doing best?

 

the mature and confident people at my school were always the obnoxious holier than thou ones!!


i was definitely in the immature and not confident crowd

 

Very true

 

You can always quit.

 

I think sometimes being different can put people off. Most people aspire to be different yet they're somewhat scared of it. I think your confidence is stunning, I don't believe you should ever change who you are. I do however think that it's okay to approach people. You may actually hold more similarities to people than you think. I imagine a lot of the ideas about you that these people possess aren't true and are ignorant judgements. I can't tell you how often people are wrong about me. If you do want to make friends then you need to be the one putting in all the effort to do so right now. If you are happy and content just as you are then there isn't really anything you need to change.

 

You nailed it, dear. It's hard to stay true to yourself in high school. But do. Long run, peace of mind.

 

God help your high school if you suddenly develop telekinetic ability and go all carrie on them


Hotwater

 

if it is like my small town there are lots of girls with babies already that have already dropped out...then there is a bunch of girls that cling to the stoner guys...a bunch more that cling to the jock scene etc...they spend all day putting each other down and talking about how so and so is gonna kick so and so's ass....and then there is you...a beautiful,smart,confident lady that has the ability to think past high school...which to me is one of the single most important things a kid in high school can do...THINK ABOUT AFTER HIGH SCHOOL....you are going to be just fine Dannielle...keep doing what you are doing