i met this girl who would never willingly watch a scary movie, sneak out of home to watch the stars at 3 am in the morning, trust others with personal information...unless she was with me. their was this girl i used to know that just made me feel so special. the fact that i was the person that this girl went to when she needed someone to talk to or someone to keep her company. I felt like i was at my best with her, and that feeling of warmth when you see the person you love the most became almost an addiction. i never had the balls to ask her and eventually we went our seperate ways. we now go to colleges thousands of miles apart and our holiday breaks are set at different times. i have spoken to her on webcam a couple times as well as seeing her a couple times when i wentback home and for the most part of the visit things went well. i am in love with this girl but i cant say the same thing for her anymore and it hurts. im having trouble staying interested in girls i have met in college as well as constantly thinking of what could've been..i have never cared so much about one girl and to just forget about her is too difficult because everything reminds me of her. how do i deal with this? i have recieved many comments before saying i should forget and move on, but to me i know this relationship was different than the others and tht just makes it so much harder to forget. i just want to know what you would do. would you keep pursuing this girl knowing your chances got slimmer or would you forget about her and move on (knowing how difficult that would be)
I know a girl like you described and never asked her to take it further even thou I had my chance. She is now married to a friend of mine and lives a few states over. I thought about it a lot and came to the conclusion that everything worked out the way it was supposed too. I just wasn't meant to be with her and everything is in its proper place at this moment in time. I had my chance, but something didn't feel right so I didn't act. Why haven't you acted on your feelings?
I would move on, I don't like to be stuck in the past, thinking about what could have been. There are so many lovely people out there, give yourself a chance.
You lost your chance, so it's best to move on. I would say that maybe I shouldn't have said "you lost your chance" as maybe this is just one of those lessons in life where you learn that what you want and what life wants aren't always the same thing. I'm willing to bet there is a girl out there for you somewhere.
How do you know she has little more that a passing interest in a friendship? Have you told her how you feel? Why not? Will she laugh at you are pull a gun out and blow your penis off. What would it hur to express you feelings for her. You need to check you briefs and be sure there's package down there cause it doesn't sound like it. I'm sorry if I insult you - but what a tweeb, what a maroon. I love her but I can's say anything cause she may not love me. Crank it up man - get your head out of your ass and talk to her.
i personally think you should talk to her if its meant to be then it will happen if its not..... then it won't.
Talk to her about it. If she says its over move on. I went through this, i still am pretty much. Deep down im still in love with my first love but i know me and her can never be. Maybe in the far future but im not waiting around for it. as they say, if its meant to be it will happen.
I would get a g/f locally, but keep the other girl on the back burner. I wouldn't hold onto a dream when she could be doing anything and everything in her spare time. Let her know you are interested, but even if she professes her undying love there isn't much you can do about it, so why sit around and pine for her? It won't do you any good getting strange about the whole thing. Get a life and when the time comes that you can do something about it she will have a real person to deal with, not someone who has cyber-stalked her for years. Plus she will see you as someone who can hold down a relationship, not just some creepy dweeb on a webcam - and I'm not saying that you are. Women always want what they can't have, especially if some other chick is smoking your bone. Or, maybe she will just block you. Who knows?
dammit, everyone here just wants my money... no really, move on. your chance with her was over about a week after you met her. if something does randomly happen at some point in the future, you'll only have a chance if you have your own life by then, as opposed to being the sad guy who always followed her no matter what.
I'm kind of in the same situation. But I'm not miles away from this person. I'm confused as hell and I want to make a move but I kind of wish he would. It feels different with him but then there are things he does that confuse me. I kind of have the if its meant to happen it will. But I know that's a load of crap and I'm just talking myself out of telling him how I really feel. I'm stupid for doing it but losing him scares me. He's the only person who understands me and the only person whose ever allowed me to be myself. I think if you don't plan on making a move then you shouldn't go after her but if you're planning on making a move then make it before its too late.
I'd let it go, but that's just me. If things didn't go the way you wanted them to, it would ruin the good memories you had of this girl, which sound very special. Why ruin that?
