"Man/woman of your dreams": Did you end up with him/her?

So there's the saying "man/woman of your dreams"... Those of you who are married or in a committed relationship, is this person "the person you've always dreamt about"?

I.e.... I have an image in my head of the guy I'd like to spend the rest of my life with. Looks, personalities, hobbies, etc... I'm just wondering if anyone who is married or whatever, actually ended up with this person?

 

No... I never had any prerequisites on what I look for in a mate. I never dreamed up some perfect guy or made a checklist of requirements he'd have to meet, but the more time we're together, the more I realize he is great for me and has qualities I love that I never even thought I would have looked for before.

 

This. Good post.

 

i met a man that made me dream, but then he met the woman of his dreams so he thought, and left me.
when she left him, he came back to me, but it was too late.
the dream, for me, was shattered.

 

i'm with someone i could never imagine being without, going on 10 years....each year better than the last....i dont know if i ever had any idea what i was looking for until i found it...so yeah, for all intents and purposes of this thread,im with the man of my dreams

 

nope.. she still doin fitness videos on youtube damn sexy body

 

I had an idea of what the right person for me would be like. Not mandatory though. And in all the ways that count, yes, he is.

He does have some personality flaws that make it very difficult sometimes. But everyone has flaws. And it's nothing I can't handle.

 

my dreams change constantly.

 

In a word, yes! I can't say that I spent a lot of time dreaming, though, because I met him when I was so young. I guess you could say we wrote, directed and produced our own.

 

Thought I knew ahead of time - then dated a few crazy chicks that screwed me up a bit and realized I'm not necessarily attracted to what's "good" for me. Woman I'm with now seems to fit much better and be better for me but she didn't fit the image I had in my mind initially.

 

The kind of person I imagine doesn't exist. I don't have a type, or an ideal person - if I like them, then I like them. Otherwise, I'd find myself pushing away good people just because he didn't match the picture in my head.

 

Havent find my dream girl yeat:/ Cry

 

I found it to be an ongoing process of getting to know I was with "the one".
We just fit together, same plans for the future and all that. We do have different interests, and that is fine, because spending every waking moment together and expecting us to be perfectly identical would be insane.
Going on 16 years together. :love:

:cheers2:

 

Great posts, thanks

This is what I'm afraid I'll do xD

 

Right now I am lucky enough to get the needed 2nd chance with my "dream guy" and it is beyond amazing. I put "dream guy" in quotes because before meeting him I didn't have a dream guy, I had always had a vague "type" and that was for a guy to be chill....yes that's about it.

I now tend to think of my boyfriend as my dream guy simply because when I think about it he is everything I've ever, even if it was only for a brief time, desired in my guy. He is pretty fucking perfect...for me, and he has told me the exact same thing, and I bet he'd agree with this too.

I quoted this because I was like you, I didn't have a checklist for a guy, becausae when there is some sort of connection you gotta give it a go. One guy could change any number of preconeived notions of an ideal type of guy.

My dream guy became my dream guy upon meeting him and getting to know him, mentally, physically, spiritually, and dare I say psychedelic-ly as well as simply sharing experiences together.

I'm not a believer in "ones" but for now he is definitely the one. I've been in love a couple times before, but the connection and energy and whatnot that we have is ineffable and is so moving...that it can not be denied. He is everything I could imagine in someone I would want to share any, or potentially all experiences with. It's weird to admit this but I feel closer to him than I do to my best friend (my other half), and that has NEVER happened. ok sorry i am rambling now.

At this point we are together, and I sincerely hope it stays this way :love:
(if you can't tell i'm head over heels for this guy, sorry if this nauseated anyone )

 

Early on, the man of my dreams was Elvis, especially in the Suspicious Minds video where he's in that little black leather jumpsuit

So I'm glad I didnt end up with him cos I'm not really into fried peanut butter and jelly sandwiches...........or dead guys

 

It was peanut butter and bananas...I thought gorillas were into bananas.

 

D'oh!


Oh well, he's still dead though anyway..........or is he

 

No (she's better). I don't think it would've really worked with the girl of my dreams..

 

I've had two serious girlfriends and am married now to my second wife. None of them were the "girl of my dreams" - but all of them were what I needed at the time. A woman I've known for some 15 years or so is the most interesting, fun, amazing, and attractive woman I've ever known - and if I fully explained my relationship with her, you'd probably think I'm crazy. She's currently in a romantic relationship with another man...and on intimate terms with me, and playing weird teasing games with me. I would never have thought this was what I wanted - yet it has enriched my life beyond what I could ever have imagined. I don't know if I'll end up "with" her or not...the story's not over yet. In the meantime I'm grateful for what I have with her.