People i got a problem, i broke up with a girl 1 month ago and i half,when we broke up she wanted to stay as friends. Now the problem is that things are not the same, we hardly talk and she might get a new bf soon which is kinda bothering me a lil bit as i still got feelings for her. I been going out with another girl for about a week but i still forget and stop the feeling i have for my ex...i wanna forget about her but there is pain in my heart n i think about her 24/7. what should i do? what can i do to forget about my ex? plz help
well, this is a hard one... ive been in this postion plenty of times also... the main thing is to try and go interact with other people.. mainly girls.. if you do this it may help you cope with not having her and hey who knows you may get a new girlfriend to love
I don't think it is good to just forget the feelings you have for her. I think you should just leave it alone and the feelings will calm and the pain will heal itself. You should not do anything to force the feelings away, that could make it even worse. I can't suggest what to do specifically as I don't know much about the situation
Don't get too heavy with Chick #2 when you're still thinking about Chick #1. This too, shall pass. Just give it some time, go out, have fun, but don't get too heavy or break anyone else's heart in the process.
its a lesson of life mate, yeah feels horrible but u got no choice but to ride it out, itll get better over time. it happens to most people at sometime.
The most important thing that you have to realize is that you can no longer talk to her about your feelings for her if she's seeing someone else. It's not fair to her if she's moved on and it's not fair to the guy she's with. If there were no feelings on your end it would be different. Just don't call her and find hapiness in your new relationship
AutumnAuburn's concise advice is really good. The emotional pain of losing someone you care about can run long and deep. If it doesn't, you probably didn't truly care about them in the first place. Hippievixen was right in that you shouldn't get heavy with #2. She might be someone to help you stay busy and keep your mind off #1. But if you're constantly being reminded of #1 while with #2, you might want to back off. It wouldn't be fair to #2, or to yourself. Fortunately, you're young enough to bounce back from such a thing. The best thing to do is to keep yourself busy to keep your mind off #1. Sure, you'll think of her often when you don't really even want to. But that will happen less and less often. One day, you'll be surpised to realize, "Hey, I didn't think about her at all yesterday." By that time, you're half way to the whole ex thing not bothering you at all. Staying friends is a bit trickier. It can certainly be done, but probably not without some pain and jealousy along the way. If you admit that you care for her, and see that she is happy where she is now- try to be happy for her. You may have to tell yourself this over again and again, but you'll start to believe it after a while. Again, time will smooth it all over. Sometimes you need larger doses of that medicine for it to work, but it does work. I wish i didn't have to speak from experience. The pain from a broken heart is the worst ever.
