Hi guys/gals, Been a long term broswer now a first time poster here and am looking forward to getting more involved in the forums. Basically, I'm a 20 year old male and I started masturbating rather late on, at the age of 17. I'd tried a bit before, but hadn't realised it was such a mental activity and so always gave up before orgasming. I've improved in how quickly I can achieve masturbation, it used to be about 30 mins but now I can in 5-10mins. I usually rely on porn to orgasm, although I can do it by just thoughts but it takes me a rather long time (atleast 10 mins) unless I havn't masturbated in atleast a few days and are especially horny. I've also realised that oddly I seem to have limited myself to only being able to orgasm thinking about sexual acts containing atleast 3 people (either 2girls or 2 guys) and additionally I've become accustomed to only masturbating by sitting in one position, sitting on the edge of a chair and I find it very odd/difficult to do it in any other orientation including laying down- it takes a long time to orgasm but I can. These problems arn't good when I'm with my girlfriend, who is luckily very understanding. The main problem is that even if we're doing something really hot, I can't orgasm from the attractive thing happening right infront of me, I have to think about stuff in my head and dettach myself from the situation even if the stuff happening in reality in front of me is hot enough to make me orgasm if I were watching it on a computer screen or in my mind! My girlfriend has managed to masturbate me to orgasm a few times but it took quite a long time because I have to focus on other thoughts in my head. To take it a step further: even if I were having sex with the most attractive girl (and her friend), I don't think I'd be able to orgasm from the situation at hand, I'd have to revert back to thinking up thoughts in my head. It's become an extremely frustrating problem that has negatively affected my relationship with my girlfriend. I have tried to train myself away from thoughts of threesomes, and to appreciate what is happening in real life when with my girlfriend but it's not worked so far. I hope I explained my predicament well enough and that the post wasn't too long, has anyone overcome a similar problem or can offer any advice? Thanks.
Hey, I am definitely not an expert, interestingly however, I used to be able to orgasm quiet easily, unless I did it too often or was too tired. As I become older, it now takes longer to orgasm, not as sensitive I suppose, and I need a lot more to get excited about. I read somewhere that your mind and body gets used to a certain pattern of stimulus and that you may need to un-learn old ways and learn new tricks. I think great sex and great masturbation is very time consuming. I think it is a tricky business to be in perfect sync with your partner every time, I also think that unlike popular belief, guys too need sufficient foreplay, my wife would like to get it over and done with in under 5 minutes, while I would like it to take hours. 10 minutes might not be as long as you think, though you could try abstaining for a couple of days if your GF wants you to orgasm a lot quicker, get her to do a bit of foreplay to get you closer to an orgasm before the act. And if necessary, see a specialists.
