So I went on a really long dry spell (1.5 yrs) and pretty much just indulged in masturbation to porn with high end lubrication (Astroglide X, highly recommend). I never have been able to get off without lube and I really prefer porn when available. Anyway I recently starting hooking up with girls again, more times that not everything has gone ok but one time I couldn't come for the life of me and another time I couldn't get hard which really sucked. While these are isolated incidents and completely psychological, I wonder if I should lay off the porn and jacking off for awhile? I know that masturbation is generally good for your sex life but I wonder if it's the same when porn is in the mix. It has given me better moves and made me more comfortable but I wonder if there are any negatives?
i cant hold off on masturbating, im addicted to it, im also addicted to fast food, and television, and my laptop. but to aswer your question mastubation is not bad nor do i think you need to stop it. just dont let anything get to your head while hookin up with a girl
Yeah I mean most of the time any sort of impotence in young guys like myself is spotty. You get worried about it then boom it happens. It happened to me after my friend was talking about how it happened to him. I dunno just need to not ever ever thing about it during sex or it's going down like the hindenberg.
Hey Caesar, my case was a little different. Before I got a girlfriend, I used to be pretty much addicted to masturbation (with porn 90% of the time). At that time I didn't know much about masturbation techniques, let alone even aware there WERE any other techniques - that meant my masturbation routines were very repetitive and non-varying. One day I got a girlfriend.. long story short - my first sexual experience, totally different from masturbation (so kinda like what you went through). Apparently my penis wasn't accustomed to the different form of stimulation - it was accustomed to only one form (my hand death grip). ...sooo... no, you don't need to stop watching porn by any means, just make sure that you keep your masturbation sessions varied enough. That's all and have fun!
^ Im going to sound stupid but could someone explain to me how there are different techs? I mean its pretty much all up and down, slow/med/fast and trists and grips... Or am I missing something? Anyway.. I do think jacking off too much will cause you stay on the limp side. Such as my ex/bf whom came himself to porn then 3 hours later, I did it on him and he was on the softer side and didnt seem as excited as waiting 12hrs. I would try to limit the porn and jacking off.. Do whenever you want to, but limit yourself. The less you have it, the more exciting and the feel of coming will be wanted from you (or the girl who is doing it). And try to stay within the "horny" mind when you feel like you're losing it.. that usually works! But dont worry, we all make mistakes, sex isnt perfect!
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