I'm so angry I can barely think straight. I read over the rape and the sorry thread in the young hippies forum. WHY???? Why do girls do that? It's nasty little attention sluts like her that made it tough for me when I was raped. No one beleived me, the cops thought it was something to get attention because every rape case in the area had turned out to be that. They even called me a slut! Why is this such a popular thing to fake? I cry and cry thinking about how horrible and violent it was, and these girls don't seem to think about that. Thay think it's a game. I would never ever EVER wish what happened to me on anyone, but I DO wish I could somehow play my memory for them so they could see how horrible it really is. It's not funny, not something to joke about and not something girls should use to get attention or get themselves out of trouble when they get pregnant. Ugh... I don't even really expect anyone to say anything. I just needed to get that out. I'm still really mad though... anyone else feel like this?
It is really sick that anyone would joke or lie about that. Its this disstrust in cases of rape that i have kept mine from family and authority. My troubled past stays exactly that, a troubled past.
boy who cried wolf syndrome! many young girls not realizing how that will affect the life of the one she dishonestly accuses! anyways im sorry ladies you ran into some of the less desirable members of the sex....
I'm truly sorry that you went through what you did headymoechick. And you're right, people that do this really are sick. In a way, it really makes me feel sorry for someone who feels that they have to make up stories in order to get attention. It makes me wonder what they have been through that has caused them to become that way. I would hope that is not just a malicious act, but maybe a cry for help of some sort. That however, is probably something we will never know, because when you deal with a person that does something like this, it's difficult to know what to believe, even if they are telling you the heartfelt truth. When I was pregnant with my twins, I was an active member of a pregnancy and parenting board. The women in this group were extremely close, and we went through a lot together. We felt like family. But of course, there's always a "bad one" in the bunch, and we were fooled by a woman who claimed she was pregnant, and due the same month as we were. Well, suddenly she started telling us stories about how she had delivered her baby girl at 20 weeks gestation, and how it had died. She would even have her "boyfriend" post updates from the hospital while the baby struggled for life. We all felt horrible, it touched everyone of us, as well as other women on other boards who had heard of the story. Later on, we come to find out that it was all a big, fabricated lie, and that she had done the same thing on another board. She admitted to it. We were furious. I also had something similar with a girl that I knew from another young parenting board. She was 16 years old, but told us that she had four children, plus, while she was a member of the board, went through probably 3 miscarriages. She said that her first baby had been adopted, but that she had the other three. Two of which she claimed where twin boys. She would post pictures and whatnot, and we actually believed her, even if we had a bit of suspicion about things, when we started looking back at dates she had mentioned and things of that sort. Well, finally it comes out that she was making everything up, and that the pictures she had posted were of her nieces and nephews. The thing with the internet is, there are some really good, honest people out there, and there are some bad. You just never know sometimes. I think a majority of the time, the ones who "cry wolf" end up being found out. It's only a matter of time. You have to be super good to be able to cover all of your tracks and get every single story right. Eventually something will slip and people will start to wonder. It is unfortunate that we have people who do things like this, and I'm so sorry that due to people pulling things like this, you were not treated fairly. Big hugs and much healing...
I must admit, I find this whole thing confusing. I don't understand how someone could lie about something like that, especially considering the effects their lies have on real victims. At the same time, I find the timing of the "sorry, not raped" posts (at least as they appeared on this forum) a bit off... She claimed that she didn't want others to know, which is a common reaction. Then, someone starts saying that they are looking into her ip address to try to find out where she is, so that they can alert the police for her... She freaked out, using caps & large font "please please don't do that". THEN she claimed it was all a lie... So which is the real lie? Admittedly, I don't follow any one person's posts, so I don't know what else this girl has done to discredit herself. But, I find it fishy -- if I had been raped, confided in others about it because I believed myself anonymous, then someone threated to track me down & report it against my wishes, I might lie, claiming I made it all up, to get that person to leave me alone... I think the whole situation is sick -- both the lie (whether real or fake) about having been raped & the ass who threatened to out her to her local police.
http://hipforums.com/forums/showthread.php?t=47916&page=1&pp=30 are you refering to this thread about babyfreak being raped? All I saw happen in here is this young girl who is 13 was violated and obviously confused about her situation. People basicly attacked her calling her a liar with no evidence of her lieing at all..a whole page went on about her and her story...She kept trying to explain herself but cmon peole she's 13 give her a break if she can't get her words right. She didn't discredit herself at allin my opinion they attacked her again for editing a post that didnt even matter if she edited it in the first place because she edited it to add something and not take something off her post..she got annoyed at the people for continuing on about her being a liar etc so she asked the post be shut down. Now people are being rude to her for having a lil fun with her boyfriend in a thread. I doubt she's done anything wrong here. It's not like she's selling her body or offering any of you hard times. Leave her alone. Im sorry you had that horrible time happen to you headymoechick. Its really awful. Who knows if it wasnt jsut as awful for babyfreak? does anyone have any evidence that babyfreak was a liar ...no????
you say there's no proof that she was lying. Well, there's also no proof she was raped. And I tell you what, when it happened to me, I certainly didn't mess around saying I was having sex with guys, even as a joke. Sex after that was scary, just the idea made me horrified. Maybe you are right, and she is just scared and confused and freaked a little when someone said they were going to interfere. WHY though, doesn't she want to go to the hospital? WHY doesn't she want her parents to know? WHY is she so open about these things, but won't tell anyone who matters? I remember I didn't tell my parents or go to the police or hospital, but it was because I didn't want ANYONE to know. I certainly wouldn't have posted it on the internet for everyone to see. Not to mention the fact that if you read more of babyfreak's other posts, she is just DYING for attention and seems to say anything to get it. But again, you may be right, and while there is more logic in the fact that she is lying, there is always a possibilty in these issues when she may be right. So my message goes out to ANY girl who decides to play with this subject.
I was just mulling over all of this stuff as I was doing things around the house and I thought to myself that maybe it wasn't a lie afterall, maybe she was just afraid and felt cornered, even before I read your post. It's a possiblity. My first reaction was "okay, this is some kind of sick joke" but after stewing on it, I began to see things at a different angle. I guess I'm feeling kind of neutral at the moment and not sure what to think about it all. I must admit that I was a little shocked how she was playing along with her boyfriend on another thread considering everything that has been going on here since the you-know-what hit the fan. You're right, she is only 13, but after everything that's been said, I was amazed at her behavior. Then again, like you said, she's only 13. Oh well, that's life I guess. The only person that really knows what happened is babyfreak herself. For her sake, I hope that it really didn't happen afterall. Much peace...
Besides like someone stated in the thread that was posted about her bf having sex with her online that was posted before all of this happened and was just brought back up again
well shit..I mean you jumped to conclusions. If someone did all that about you you'd want to have a say about it.
Understand how you feel. Getting ready to go and deal with more issues in therapy today. I have been feeling a bit better and since x-mas is coming up i have been making loads of presents. peace and love to all of us who can be strong. i love you all.
laurel she needs a ride and an appointment... poo thing is probably really needing a friend right now... whatever the truth may be she is young and scared! my advice to you young lady is one stp drinking cuz you clearly cant handle the responsibilty....not that anything is your fault you just dont need to be drinking with adults or you are expected to act like one! secondly be careful where you put your business cuz other people will do their best to get in it be it to your benefit or not... try pming someone from the board you trust or a friend but when you introduce drama of any kind somepeople will run with it as far as they can! third stop feeling the need to justify yourself! know what you want to say be 4 you say it and be able to accept the reprecussions! best of luck to you....
FIRST YOU WERE RAPED THEN YOUR BROTHER GOT A HOLD OF THE COMPUTER AND MADE IT UP, NOW YOU WERE RAPED? DON'T YOU HAVE SOMETHING BETTER TO DO?
i dont know what to do, but i can see that babyfreak needs some therapy... seriously, it might help your "fucked up" mind
We are going around in circles here. I am of two minds about this. One, Babyfreak lied and a LOT of people felt betrayed. Two, that she really was raped, and recanted her statement when she was attacked and threatened with someone who had NO power to do so, "Tracking her down and calling the authorities" THis happens in Courts of Law, it sure could happen here. I don't know which one is true. And there is no way to know. If this thread focuses on people trying to help Babyfreak, I'll let it stand. It it continues to go round in circles or attacks Babyfreak again, it will be closed. Blessings, Maggie
Like I said the the 'raped' thread, who the hell cares whether it was completely true or not? The main point of the story was that you need to be really careful with your drinks (alcoholic or not) and food, and what you accept from other people. Particularly those you've just met. There are predators everywhere... if they're willing to attack 13 year olds, then there's something seriously wrong with this world. I'm sorry, but I don't really see what the big deal is. If it's a true story, then obviously she's having some issues in dealing and needs help and support, not to be attacked. If it's fabricated, it's a really good goddamn representation of the confusion and fear that can accompany sexual assaults. If nothing else, it may help those who have been raped, particularly recently, deal a little bit better because they know they aren't alone. My last two cents - if you've been sexually assaulted, report it to the police. It's the only way to stop the predator from attacking others.
what did she say exactly? my best friend was raped- twice and i think its judemental and iggnorant when people call her a slut and say its her fault- i can see why your so angry and my heart goes out to you