Have a feeling I'm the rebound guy...again

I've been seeing this girl I really like for the past two months or so and things have gone pretty well. We've had sex a couple times and we have great chemistry. Recently though I noticed she was being kind of distant and I pressed her until she admitted she was missing her ex bf. She got some kind of job offer or something where this guy lives and she is thinking of moving for the asshole. Anyway I told her she needs to figure out if she wants to move or not and if she isn't she needs to get over it.

Anyway I now realize I'm just one of her rebound guys after getting out of this relationship she's had for two years. I do really like the girl though and I can't really be upset at her for having more feelings for somebody she had a two year relationship with. I don't know what to do. I've decided to give he some distance and give her time to think about it, but I also don't want to give too much distance and lose her. Should I eventually try and talk to her about it? Or should I just let her come to me when she's ready? I realize

the smart thing to do would be just to move on and usually I would, but I'm tired of giving up on burgeoning relationships at the first sign of trouble.

 

Eh, beats always being the other guy. At least this might work. Quit bitching about what you don't have and appriecate what's there while it lasts.

 

I say stand up for yourself.

 

Well I'm willing to give her some time because I know after she decides not to move (which I'm betting she will) she's going to want me again. However on some level I find that insulting, yet again I have to remember we've only been dating a couple months. My strategy is to talk to her later this week and see where her head is and go from there.

 

If her ex showed up tomorrow and said he wanted her back what do you think she would do? If you know right now that she'd get back with him then you have no reason to still be there unless you are just weak and willing to accept someone elses seconds.

Also, how much time was there between relationships for her? I am of the opinion that women of value, or the ones that are actually strong, are capable of being alone and don't have to play monkey bars with boyfriends like 90% of the female population.

 

Yup.

 

At least you're 'the guy', which is more that 'the other guy' can say.

 

:2thumbsup:

 

Look, people rarely end up with their first choice. It's a fact of life.

 

Well look I'm pretty much fucked as far as dating options, I'm out of college here in a bit and needless to say I'm going to be barbequeing alone for the next 4 months if I can't get this girl. I completely agree that this is bullshit and I deserve to be a first choice but the realities of the situation are that this is the only decent piece of ass on the menu for awhile and it's either cater to her retardery or not have a decent person to date. My plan is to talk to her and then lay it down for her, if she straight up says she misses her ex over me I'll say fuck it and date miss Astroglide for the next year or whatever.

 

Well you kind of sound like a douchebag anyway so I don't really give a shit.

 

You're right...fuck that ****. However I will try to get her back...not because I like her...just so I can be the one to dump her ass.

 

If you go to jail someone will meatplunge your stinkpucker.

(And yes, I madr that up. just in case it catches on I want full credit)

 

I like how Sam said you were a douchebag and then your next post just re-emphasized it.

I agree you are douchebag.

 

To be honest iv been in a simular situation. if you got with her quite soon after she finished her ex, then its can be kinda normal for her to miss him depending on the situation in which they broke up.
what you should do is just say look, i understand you may be missing him. you was with him for a long time.
since she broke up with him, i find once one brake up happens thats it really its never the same. so just give her some time and say il be here for you if you need me.
then she can do the thinking and you have left it on a good note.

As for the "douchbag" thing about dumping her etc. i know how that feels. your pissed because you have been treating her well and really like her yet she is thinking about another guy who may have not even treated her half as well.
but i know you like her otherwise you wouldnt be posting this. i bet you wont feel that way when you get her back.

Goodluck. hope this helps.

 

yes I think I know how you feel, look at the one I posted about my 17 year relationship with my now wife. read that then youll know that I feel like you