I need some advice please. my wife and I have been married 2 years but been together 17 years she is 61 and im 41 but the age difference isnt to me a problem. The last 3 weeks we seem as if we are drifting and one day 2 weeks ago I said I aint happy and she also said she felt we were drifting AWAY FROM EACH OTHER...she said to me she wasnt in love with me but loved me, the thing is I dont know how to take that...Anyway she is at the moment on holiday and supposed to be back today but there is a 4 day spanish strike on so she wont be coming home til Thursday...I txt her saying that I miss her and really love her and willing to do whatever to make our marriage work... She didnt txt back stating she loved me so I txt her straight to the point and said do you love me, if you dont want to answser then dont, she txt back and said yer love yer....Anyway, I said does she miss me as I do, she replied to me saying I will tell you when I get home...To me that does not sound convincing....Anyway trying here to cut the long story short but I did tell her that I was on the internet chatting to lewd woman and feel so guilty about it that I needed to tell her. She didnt take it too gud which is understandable, nothing happened, never met these woman just some sort of hang up that I have... Anyway since she has been away Ive not gone onto them sites but Im really worried that she may be or already gone off me and I am playing the waiting game by thinking when she gets home she might hit me with saying she does not love me and spilling everything out......Just another thing her ex husband has got in contact with her grandchildren and buying stuff for them and being really nice, I said I have no worries about that but now he in the last 3 weeks has been coming round often whilst I have been here, now ive shot myself in the foot and now im jealous that she has got him a s a friend. But it seems strange that her mood has changes all of a sudden evern tho the upset with myself.......Please please can anyone help as Ive no family and close friends to talk to, she on the other hand has loads to talk to......thankyou
Fact. No one cares about your particulars to the extent that you do, no matter how devoted to you they are. This does not mean that love is not present. Fact, no one can assure your future. Your insecurity about the future is brought on by a misapprehension of the present. Fact, the only measure of love you will ever experience comes from you. Your answers are not found in her.
Agreed. When was the last time just the two of you went away on holiday? No cell phones, no kids (if you have kids), no family, just the two of you? Works WONDERS for a marriage. (We're 19 years of marriage, 24 years together, not all easy but all worth the effort)
