*probably quite a details heavy thread, sorry if you're offended* Hi, I made another thread a few weeks back, basically saying I had never properly masturbated (I'm male, 22), but since then I actually tried it once again and managed to ejaculate, which was crazy experience for me. I felt more relieved psychologically than anything, as I felt much more normal. This brings me to now. I try and do it twice a week but sometimes I can only manage it once, it's weird. I'll be doing it for like 20 mins and I feel like I'm getting close, but no matter how hard I try, I'm unable to finish. After a while of this my hand just gets far too tired and I give up... frustrated. And frustrating. Is this... normal? I mean you'd think I'd have a high sex drive given I've missed out on years of teenage hormones and stuff like that, but I dunno how exactly it works. I'd like to be able to do it more frequently when I want but when I've tried to do it two days in a row it just doesn't happen. Thanks for your time.
It doesn't seem normal for a man your age to not be able to get it up and JO several times a day. You said something about you've missed out on years of teenage hormones. What did that mean? I was going to suggest you see a doctor and check your testosterone level.
Its the other way around, not ever guy is the same so there is always that bottom couple of % of guys where its just a slow murmur Probably better off not being a slave to your loins
I can get it up that's not the issue, it's just that sometimes I can't go all the way and ejaculate... I can get real close but then I'm unable to finish. What I meant by "missed out" was I never jacked off in those teenage years, so my theory is that all that teenage stuff is probably built up, maybe I'm wrong.
There's more than getting it up for having sex. There's also the urges. I can't understand why you didn't jack off in your teen years. That was most of our daily (or more) activity. Did you have "wet dreams" when a teenager? Testosterone gives guys their sex urges, sometimes aggressively. That is the hormonal conflicts that most teens go thru and I am curious how you avoided that, which is why I suggested a testosterone check.
I'm going to agree with Shale, something may not be operating correctly. It may be hard "no pun intended" but i'd discuss this with your doctor. Theres nothing wrong with edging...hell i encourage it..it makes it that much better. However, you should be able to go past that at anytime without problem. Do you have any anxiety over jerking off or fear of feeling a orgasm. In all seriousness maybe your not doing it right.
This sounds more like a physiological anomaly rather than strictly physical or emotional. Possibly long standing, unresolved emotional difficulties (in youth) — especially valid given the mention that you never JO'd when young. Prostate problems can come into play in later years (often with pain near ejaculation). Maybe make an appointment with a sympathetic specialist Doctor for a check out. There might be much more unaccounted for than meets the eye.
Yeah wet dreams were like a fortnightly thing, pretty regular and unavoidable which made sense. I guess I was a particularly angry teen, probably related to not releasing stress like most young males did heh... And I dunno if I really do have a physical problem, like I said I just don't seem to be able to do it every time which may be weird. Once a week I'm definitely able to. Part of me thinks sometimes it's just a problem with the material (visually). I have a pretty poor imagination for things like that so I have to rely on porn, but I only watch softcore stuff that might seem weird. I just really dislike watching anything like a handjob or blowjob, etc. and don't get the appeal of close-up female masturbation and stuff like that. Maybe it's just me being childish but that kinda stuff makes me real uncomfortable. But my point is of bringing this up is sometimes it is difficult to find stuff I like if you know what I mean. Yeah I guess technique couldn't be that great but I'm new at it so still learning heh. I certainly was anxious about it when I was younger, and the few times I did try I kinda stopped because I felt uncomfortable (and only realised recently it was 'cause it is quite an unusual sensation that can be mistaken for pain; it didn't actually hurt I was just telling myself it did... so I never went far enough the few times I tried to go all the way, as it were).
This could be a stamina thing of just your arm/hand tiring out. Just like any other reptitious activity this requires a certain level of fitness in the right muscles, just even the most unfit/unhealthy people have them built up because they've always used them. You haven't. Practice makes perfect. Try a toy or some oils or in a warm shower for added stimuli. . Though it does sound like there are some psyche issues going on, its nothing you haven't overcome. . Also your body makes sperm at the level you are used to releasing it. If you only released it in wet dreams for 10 years your body is only making enough for one release every two weeks. As you train your body to go more and more often (I.e. Get used to doing it) it will also come easier. . All three of these are solved by one simple solution, PRACTICE. Keep stroking, and have fun doin it.
Still, you have to be careful about everyone running around telling you there is something wrong with you, because you are not like them You described yourself as an angry teen, what was the source of the anger?, was it really this issue, or was it more to do with not being like every other guy. All guys tend to exaggerate when it comes to their virility, manhood etc, so you cant really trust what they say in that regard Say this kind of thing: And most guys are going to jump to, well you must be a homo. Whereas if you are straight, have no problem getting it up, last longer, then the ladies are going to love you, but at the same time they are going to take it personally if you dont cum, and as you experience grows, for you its going to end a lot of the time with them finishing themselves off in front of you, masturbating in front of you, which is going to give you the shits as you will take it personally, as an attack on this issue you've been stressing about for a while, and thus train you off girls that are going to do that. Plus a lot of the straight guys say girl on girl porn gets a little boring, so dont get it in your head that you not being particular about female solo porn is anything out of the ordinary I say all this because in my time I've seen lot of guys that are actually asexual get confused and end up making a dick of themselves, getting convinced they must be gay, chiefly because they've listened to everyone elses shit - the gals dont make you tongue drop to the floor, or you cant get whipped like us, so you must be a homo, there can be no other explanation. The dream thing is a bitch too, you probably dont remember the dreams, so dont know what the subject matter of those dreams is thats causing you to cream yourself fortnightly, could be a donkey dancing around in a pink tutu for all you know
Quite honestly, I have my doubts as to whether this is a genuine case at all. It just seems too far fetched.
Fair points, seems to make sense. I hope you're right about the "supply" thing heh. Source of anger I dunno really, I was always pretty well behaved as a kid and I didn't break any laws or that kinda thing as a teen, I was just always really frustrated and had a really short temper, like the tiniest thing would make me wanna scream sometimes. Teenage angst thing I guess. And cheers for the other info, I guess everyone likes different things. I don't see why you think I'd lie about this and make a whole thread about it. What would I gain? Some attention? When no-one knows who I am? No point.
You get all kinds online. I've heard it said that for anything the human mind can conceivably imagine, no matter how bizarre, you can be sure that there'll be a website dedicated to it somewhere. To quote an old Northern English phrase, "There's Nowt So Queer As Folk" (it really needs to be said with the regional accent for best effect).
