Am social yet I feel like I have no friends.

Am not going to bullshit anyone but I have like two friends that I hang out with and the others I feel as if they avoid me. I understand people do their own thing and stuff but even my "best" friend doesn't even call me or anything. I would like to have a bigger pool of friends but like I said people I know don't even call me or text. I always been social and sure at times I can be shy but after you get to know me I open up.

I feel this trend has happened after I deleted my facebook months ago. I find facebook to be a bit of invasion of privacy but then again you control wtf you post of comments or pictures. I also prefer to see people I know then through facebook.

Has anyone gone through this?

 

maybe you have a certain attitude that puts people off. I want to hang around positive people and if I start distancing myself from a friend its usually because there is some kinda negativity there that brings me down. Call them; you dont have to wait on people to call you.

 

L0L I dont bite at first meet! I swear. I really don't act like a asshole. You have to give me reason too so I cant recall being a dick to any friends or new acquaintances.

But you see I call/txt and they tell me yeah lets chill and then a few hours later its oh am with my bf/gf or they just dont even reply.

 

i was just suggesting it was your attitude, I wasn't saying thats definitely the problem maybe your friends are just flakes.

 

ugh...............This is how I was starting to feel about them.

 

Maybe you're a loner and you don't realize it yet

 

I like socialize though.........I like exchanging thoughts with other humans though.

 

Could be;

-Your friends are self involved douches

-You mentioned a decline after the fall of Facebook, perhaps they see you as the odd one out and don't want to socialize with you, people can be pretty vain


I'd say make some new friends. Just because your current ones are old friends doesn't make them good friends. I've dropped friends after 9 years of close friendship because they started being really self involved, using hard drugs, turned into assholes because they hated their lives, etc.

 

What do you do when you socialize? If you are doing stuff others enjoy then it seems to me they will be on board. If you drag them along on things they think are dull or useless or worthless they will avoid you to keep from having to go somewhere they would just as soon not be.
Do you try to force your own agenda? Or do you throw cold water on their plans. Maybe they like to get ripped and you don't.
Any of that familiar?

 

Do you try to contact them more than once before you get a response? Do you think you might pressure them to spend time with you? How good are you at hanging out by yourself? Do you have passions of your own?

Good luck. :2thumbsup:

 

Every time I'm around any of my friends they treat me as if I'm the cat's pajamas but I don't actually feel as if they give a fuck when I'm not there. Maybe I'm only good in the moment, like candy corn.

 

I'm the same way.

I know lots of people... Hell I know tons of people.

But I only like a couple of them haha.

Seriously, the only people I like are my friends in my band + my girlfriend... Maybe like 3 more...

It's definitely under 10.