People who do not know you well but judge based off what they have heard from others

I really do not like that. It is like they barely ever see you and barely know anything about you. Yet they assume they have figured you out and know everything about you based on what other people have said. Especially when the people talk shit about you to them and say all this bad crap.

So then when you actually are around these people and they can get to know you it is hard because they already act weird towards you based on these pre-assumed beliefs about you.

 

By acting this way they destroy the value of their own opinion. If someone is given to passing judgment before getting the facts then what they say ceases to be of any concern to me and I'd just as soon they think badly of me... if that makes them happy.

 

I kinda like when this happens because they expect one thing and get something else

 

But in some cases they're so encased in their preconceived notions that there's nothing you can do to change their minds.

It's kinda dumb to prejudge, but it's even dumber to hold onto prejudgments in the face of evidence to the contrary. But I've seen both happen. If you can just ignore them then fine...but if they're in a position to cause problems for you, watch your back.

 

This happens to me all the time here in redneck country.....My long hair and long beard tend to cause folks to label me instantly....
I recently went to a flower shop in the nearest large town, I was wanting to place an order for a relative, the owner was very tense and standoffish. Finally I got it all ordered and asked him whats up man, you seem pretty ill at ease? He said he thought I was a transeint coming in the shop to bum money or worse......;-)

 

I get that when I stop to help people whos car broke down on the highways....I have 20 years experience and truck full of tools (plus I'm really nice :d ) but they almost always roll up the windows and lock the doors when I approach

I don't feel bad anymore driving past them

 

almost sounds like you got profiled....i live in a small town...this shit you speak of is rampant here...i hate it

 

The funny thing is, most of the photos I see in the news of guys who got arrested for doing some shit to someone show clean-shaven guys with shorter haircuts. When I'm sizing somebody up I try to ignore clothes and hairstyle and just look at facial expressions and body language.

 

yeah, I get watched in a lot of stores and when I ask if a store has something one person will lie and say they don't have it then another person will give me fake directions so eventually I just give up and don't spend money there

 

Ive had stuff like that happen to me all my life till now Ive finally reached the point where if I know someone is talking trash about me , I will do something on purpose just to give them something REAL to talk about !

 

Whoa, take it easy girl, you can only be insulted by those people if you let them.
Don't let people stresspass on your chillitude...:beatnik:

ZW

 

You know what IRKs me. One of my best friends, when girls would ask about me, he'd tell them some not so favorable things about me, and then I'd get these girls making fun of me online. That was way back when but still pisses me off to this day that he would do that, and I highly mistrust him with that kind of shit still, because I do know that he is one of those people that finds enjoyment from talking about people when they're not around. REALLY makes me wonder what kind of shit he's fucking brought up between our friends about me when I'm not around, considering how critical and judgmental he's been of me forever.

Damn I could whine about this friend of mine all day long, and so many times I've really wanted to just end the friendship. A few things...

I dislike how he presents himself to girls as a caring little cute jew, when we know he's a perve over teen emo girls. He's also someone who constantly thinks his opinion is the correct opinion, will argue to death, or until he gets really upset because we disagree with him. He also tries running the way events go down, demanding we go to places by the exact time he wants to be there, (this last weekend our friend wasn't taking us to a concert around a certain time that was past when he wanted to get there, and he basically demanded that I drive ahead of time). That's another thing, he always wants things to go his way, but yet never is the one offering to drive with his car. He is also very opinionated in a way as if he were very knowledgeable, when I know for a fact he has never read a single book for personal fulfillment, and always used sparknotes for books we had to read in school. He never listens to anyones suggestions yet he makes his own for people all the time. For example in discovering new music, he never actually listens to my suggestions, yet he sends me links upon links of music he found (which granted can be cool), but is not considerate of him.

Damn, obviously that was a vent, that absolutely needed to get out. But I love him, and that's too bad really, because he gets on my nervvesss. I wonder what fucking bullshit he explains me with to all the friends he makes that I don't. From the past, it can't be good.

Man and the biggest thing of all is when he just looks at me with the most judgemental, critical, and pathetic eyes when I share my thoughts.

 

I kinda do that. If someone is staring at me I'll stare at them until they look away, but keep staring and catch them looking back like 5 times before they finally just walk away

If someone actually -says- something I'll always say something back though

 

You should try being the one to say something. I will mouth the curse words at someone directly.

 

I didnt mean in a violent way , I meant like my nosey neighbors....when I know the gossip is flying , I will do something like kiss a female friend while standing in my front yard in broad daylight , or sit on my front porch with a 40 and a bunch of other folks that people round here call LOWLIFEs , just little things to keep the gossip going....there gonna talk even if I was holier than though sitting in church every sunday !

 

A lot of gossip has an element of envy/jealousy behind it.

 

why is everyone using that picture of that guy as their avatar???????????????

 

Julian Assange, the founder of Wikileaks:


http://www.hipforums.com/newforums/showthread.php?t=415209

 

Ugh, so I got a job about 2 1/2 months ago as a cashier, and never really got close to my boss.

They post the fucking schedule up the saturday afternoon before each week, so you never know if you're working the next sunday until the day before, and I was hoping that I would have off last sunday, but nope- I had to work for 8 1/2 shitty hours.
A woman came through buying tide washing machine things, and started bitching about how 3 dollars didn't come off, and acting as if it was my fault.
She just kept complaining and complaining while we waited for somebody else who worked their to come over, so I said, maybe a little ruder than I intended, that I didn't want to be there anymore than she did. And she complained about me. Despite being "in a rush".
So I get yelled at by the co mananger of the store, and he told my boss. I was already planning on quitting, and handed in my resignition letter today, and she acted like I'm some surly ass hole teenager who shows no respect. I'm not that at all, I'm quiet, but I'm friendly, and will only be rude to somebody if they treat me like that first.
She doesn't know me at all, and she gave me such a hard time with handing in my damn resignition letter- so what if I want to quite right before the holidays? I have a life, and it does not revolve around that fucking supermarket! And she tries to make me feel bad about it? Yeah, I don't care, I hate that place. She doesn't know the real me, and she can go on thinking what she wants. At least I won't be spending the rest of my life in a yucky supermarket that doesn't even sell sprouts!
She's such a bitch...

Anyway, long story short; yeah, people shouldn't just judge you when they don't know you.

 

I judge people on what they do and say... as a new thing in pretty much every thread I go into...

I can call a person a totally useless piece of shit in one thread and still have a polite conversation with them in another... Of course, if every thread they post is full of bullshit, I eventually lose all patience with them and treat them as they act.

Unfortuantely, there are a lot of people who have a hard time accepting that, and get it into their heads that I am just a blatant ass who looks to start fights... Yet, in almost every thread where this happens, it is someone else taking the conversation from polite to attacks... And yes, I will fully admit that I way way over react... but you know what? Your only control of how I react, is if you give me something to react to or not... Not HOW I react...

I see a lot online that can be compared to real life... You walk up to me and slap me across the face... I am likely to try to beat the living shit out of you and laugh in your face as you whine that it was unfair as all you did was slap me...

You don't get to choose how other people react to you... Deal with it...

As for real life itself.. I've been on the front page of the local paper, hair down to my waist, smoking a joint in a local park downtown... My hair is just getting past my shoulders again now and I expect I would get some negative reactions from certain people if I hung around places that those type do... But seems I don't, I don't expect to have many issues in this regard...

However, having a large extended family in the area that I don't associate with also adds to it... Lots of people think they know me from what my family has told them... Most of whom I haven't spoken to since I was a teen...

You know what it all comes down to though?

Nobody will ever have a more important role in your life then you do.