Throughout my entire life I've never had one healthy relationship with anyone. Not one person. I've tried my best with friends, girls, everything but I've never been able to really find love with anyone. I don't love any of my friends and I barely talk to my best friends now that I've moved away to go to college. I've been single my entire life and I'm sick of it. I don't know what to do with my life because no girls have ever liked me romantically. And it's fucking depressing. I'm just ranting now so I'll shut up. Can anyone tell me what it takes to find love?!
Put yourself out there. Go out to see a local band or something... Anywhere where you can meet people and mingle. If you put forth zero effort you will get zero results. -Or post a profile on a free singles site. I recommend PlentyofFish. Everything they ofer is 100% free and you can communicate as much as you want.
That sucks, but i agree with Psyowa you just need to do more things where you can meet people, but didnt you say you go to collage? surely theres lots of girls there for you to get to know??
if you feel sorry for yourself, women will be able to sense it. be confident and love yourself. put yourself out there, as everyone has said.
Sometimes to get love you have to give love. Friendships and relationships rarely just happen and work. You have to put effort into making friends, and effort into keeping them. There are a million different ways to make a bond with someone and a million more ways to keep it strong. But I guess the main things are just talking and finding activities to do together. Why don't you talk to your old friend's anymore? Why don't you try reaching out to them?
I also agree with Emma. Relationships don't just "happen". Ask any relationship counselor. It takes effort. Your future wife won't just magically appear next to you and stay with you for eternity or anything like that. A relationship means two people, each with needs. In order for a relationship to even start, these needs have to sync up.
If you can't even love your friends I think a romantic relationship is the least of your worries right now. You need to learn how to put yourself out there and love people as people before you can love a girl as more.
Who needs women anyway, with all the porn these days...:love: haha jks but in all seriousness everything will come in time broha.
I will take a slightly different stand. I, too was in college-senior year before I had my 1st girlfriend. I was/is shy and meeting people was not so easy. Where I differ a bit is, I say let love come to you. Love has a way of finding you. For me (college sr yr)-this girl used to come around after dinner everynight, yelling up for my roommate. He seemed to never be there. After a couple of weeks of talking from my window and her outside, I asked her to come up and I'll wait with her for roommate. Anyway after several weeks of this, and roommate forgotten about, we fell madly in love, and made for a great senior year. I thought for sure I would die a virgin, but love found me, so just hang in there hensley425.
The first healthy relationship anyone on this planet has to have before having healthy relationships with others is with SELF.
before you can have a healthy relationship with SELF, you must first have a healthy relationship with GOD. nah, jk.
It's not that I don't love my friends. It's just that progressively over the summer they've been more into partying than actually talking to me. This has been for the last 8 months. I miss them, but if alcohol is more important than someone you've been friends with for more than 10 years, I don't really want to be associated with them. Thanks for everyone's help.
Maybe counseling will help. At your college there is bound to be some sort of c ounseling center. Perhaps there are some underlying reasons why you have difficulty being close to people and loving them. It doesn't mean anything is wrong with your or that you are crazy. It'll just hep you start to see things differently and to strengthen your self-confidence when it comes to relationships. Good luck. These things have a way of working themselves out.
